Tag Archives: Joy

Excitement For The Day!

Do you wake up every morning excited for the day?

I’ve been asking myself that same question for a while now.

Because of all the things I have to do on a daily basis, I haven’t been waking
up excited for the day.  What is going on?

There are so many people out there who are going through the same thing.

Think back to when you were a kid, you’ll be able to remember what were
those things that made you excited, because we all need to look forward to
something.

Aloha,

Janin

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What Is Your Style?

Do you even have a style?  I want to talk about it because many people
are confused about style.

Have you heard people talk about the different styles called – a girly look,
a edgy look, a classic look, a vintage look, a sporty look, a beach-y look,
a bohemian look, a punk rock look?

The styles of dress are diverse as people are.

Think about how you feel when you get dressed, deciding what your style
is just fun.  You can create the look and feel that you want.

Experiment with different styles and colors, you’ll be amazed at what you
can create.

Aloha, Janin

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Colors For The Different Occasions

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Color is important.

Red, we usually associate that color with Valentine’s Day and we also
associate color with the other occasions through out the year, like
Easter – we think of the yellows and the pastel pinks and pastel blues.

Each color creates some kind of emotion and affects our lives without
us even realizing us.

Color can be very persuasive.  There’s a color psychology to every
color out there.

Wear the different colors that you don’t normally wear!  You have to
have a little variety in life.

Aloha, Janin

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Why Color Is Important

Have you ever wondered why color is important or why you hear
people talking about color?

Color is everywhere and it’s all around us, it affects our whole life.

We don’t always pay attention to color when we get dressed.

Light has a lot to do with color and everyone perceives color and
sees color differently.

Color brings so much joy and happiness into our lives.  You should
always wear your favorite color because it will make you feel good.

Color affects our moods and emotions.

Are you wearing your favorite color?  Think about the colors that you
wear.

Aloha, Janin

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Acknowledging Your Gift, Why It’s Important

The gifts that you have and the gifts that we’ve been give by God, a gift is something that
has been given to to us and it comes really naturally and easily.  We all have gifts and they
are meant to bless the lives of other people as well as our own.

We need to think about our gifts all the time so that we can grow it and expand it, which
allows us to share it with other people.

Sharing your gifts with other people will bring a smile to them and yourself.

Gifts comes in all sizes and shapes, it’s so diverse, there’s no two gifts alike-it’s endless.

Share your gifts today!

Aloha, Janin

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episode #020 – Do Things Differently In Your Life

Do Things Differently In Your Life

The topic of doing things differently in your life is a really
interesting one and you’ll understand what I mean.

I’ve always been the kind of person that I’ve always tried to
do things a little differently in my life.  I think it started from
when I was a little girl because I can remember when I was
a kid having that thought and feeling of wanting to do things
how I wanted to do it and when I wanted to do it.  You might
want to call it rebellion kind of sounds like rebellion, I think I
did become rebellious when I was a pre-teen(I hope it didn’t
start when I was a kid in elementary, that wouldn’t be good!)    

(Sorry Mom!)

I have to apologize to my mom because I’m pretty sure I gave
my Mom and other family members a lot of stress at times or
shall I say quite often.  As I think about it now, I think I felt
and acted that way because of the amount of creative energy
that I had from a really young age.

As a kid I always went with that creative energy that was
moving and flowing, isn’t that what we’re supposed to do?
We’re supposed to go with that flow, that we’re feeling.

I have to thank to my Mom, because she was the one that
was always doing something creative with my siblings and I.
I am so grateful for that!  We were always doing crafts, I did
a lot of sewing, she did a lot of sewing and we were always
just creating – working with clay and things like that.

Why is it that, it always seems the case that we don’t
appreciate our mom’s until we get much, much older and
then we have to suffer in our own lives before we wake
up and appreciate our moms!

I’m glad at least I woke and started appreciating all the
things that she did for me.

What I’ve come to realize is that you have to find out who
you are, all the way down to the depths of your very soul.
When you do that it becomes very evident that we are all
different on every level.  And what I’ve seen from so many
people is that they sometimes don’t really know who they
are, or, are a little afraid of what they know about themselves
and that’s a natural feeling – so don’t feel bad is you find
out things about yourself that you don’t like or you’re a little
afraid of it.

I am here to tell you that being different and doing things
differently is one of the many great things that you can do
for yourself, and for those people who are closest to you
because they’re actually the one’s who reap the benefits
of who you are – whether it’s good or bad.

Now, I’m not talkin’ about being the weird kind of different
that people will be turned off by.  I’m just talking about being
you, which is different.  There is only one “you”, one of you
on this planet, there is no one else like you.

So, when you become comfortable with being different, then
doing things differently becomes a breeze!  You’ll start to notice
that things start to get better in you life.  Now I know that this
idea is not easy for a lot of people, but, I do know that it’ s well
worth it.

One thing that you can do today to start to do things differently
is:

~Decide that this is what you want to do and commit to knowing that
this is going to be a fantastic thing for you.

There are so many benefits of doing things differently.  I just want to
let you know that I love the fact that I do things differently than a lot
of other people that I know.  I’m not afraid of it.  If a thought or idea
that comes to me, then I go with the flow.  It has helped me in so
many ways that it’s impossible to really mention it all, right here.

I want to talk more about the benefits of doing things differently in
your life and maybe you can see what I mean.

One of the benefits is:

~You start to feel like you’re special, and this is great if you don’t
already feel like that.

Now, I’m not sure if you have even thought about feeling like you’re
special or that you even care to feel like that.  But, I will say that
when you start to care about how you feel about yourself, everyone
around you will start to notice and even make a comment or two.
I want to challenge you to start thinking about that.

Another benefit:

~Your sense of awareness becomes greater because you’re not
focusing on trying to be or become like someone else.

Greater awareness is always a good thing that’s for sure.  Who
wouldn’t want to notice things around us that can benefit us, or
those that we care about.  It’s when we are paying attention that
we can enjoy the benefits of that newfound sense of awareness.

 

So, basically it’s all about aware of you and your surroundings and
the benefits will definitely be different for everyone, so you won’t
really know until you try it out.

One more benefit:

~You’ll find that your level of confidence starts to grow.  You know
something very interesting that I’ve noticed for many years now, is
that as peoples’ confidence level starts to grow they start to realize
that they aren’t so: dumb, stupid, unworthy, ridiculous, foolish or …
(you fill in the blank).

You start to have a lot of small little accomplishments that lead you
straight to a higher level of confidence as you keep plugging away
and doing these things a little differently (like in your own special way).
If you keep at it everyday, you’ll start to notice your confidence starting
to grow and who wouldn’t want to be confident, right!

I know that all of these things do take time and it will take time.
This is not something that happens overnight (unfortunately, sometimes
I wish it did) but I want to encourage you to hang in there, keep going,
keep moving forward in the pursuit of ‘being who you really are” doing
things differently.

 

We’re all striving to be happy.  If you do things differently in your life
(and you could incorporate this into all areas of your life) it doesn’t
have to be only one specific thing or one specific way, just start off
by focusing on one area and think about how you can do something
different – even starting right now.

Write it down, I always talk about pencil and paper.  Write things down.
Just jot down an idea or two that you might have about what you could
do differently in your life, it really will have a big impact on your life but
you’ll never know until you get started.  You will definitely reap all of
the benefits that are waiting for you when you do things differently
and find out who you really are.

I want you to start today, I’m cheering for you! (Rah! Rah!)

I want to be in your corner and cheer you on and if you need my
help, I would love for you to connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com

If you would like me to help you and if you’d like to work with me
I would welcome your email, or if you want you can send me a
voice mail message just go to my website at FashionableFinance.com –
click on the voice mail tab on the right hand side an send me a voice
mail message and I will get back to you and see how we can work
together I would love for you to comment and let me know what
you think and what you want to hear and send me anything you’d
like me to know.

I would love for you to share this podcast with other people that you
know who you think would be able to benefit from the things that I’m
sharing.

All the things that I share is all the things that I’ve learned and gone
through in my life and learned by experience and so please share this
message with other people, you’ll be amazed at how it could really
help someone when you didn’t think it could.  So let them know
where they can listen to this recording, they can go to iTunes and
they can search for Fashionable Finance or they can go to my website
at fashionablefinance.com and it’s right there, you can listen to it or
you can actually read the show notes.

I would appreciate it if you would go to iTunes and give me an honest
rating and an honest review, I would really appreciate that and it lets
me know what you folks are liking and not liking and if you think it’s
of value.  I only want to share value, I don’t want to share anything
that’s not worth your time because it wouldn’t benefit me or you!

I would love to help you in your pursuit of Doing Things Differently I
n Your Life.

I thank you so much, I really appreciate you being here because
there’s so many things to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that
you chose this podcast.

I want to send out some wonderful Hawaiian sunshine to all of you.

Again, I would love for you to send me a message, you can choose
how you want to send your message by email or voicemail, and let
me know what you think I appreciate it!

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out
there and to enrich their lives, to help them to grow and learn and
have a much more fulfilling life.

I want to thank you, a hui hou malama pono – until next time,
take care!

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #019 – Not Looking Back

Not Looking Back

I am here in beautiful Hawaii and I want to send the Aloha
Spirit out to all of you that are listening, I hope you feel it
and I hope you feel my love.

And I want to send out some Hawaiian Sunshine as well,
it makes you feel good.

I want to share with all of you about Not Looking Back:

Unfortunately It’s something that we all do…a lot!  I, myself
have caught myself looking back at all the things that I’ve
done in my life that was either – wrong, crazy, hurtful and
way to much more that I don’t even really want to think
about.  A number of years ago I realized that I had a tendency
to always look back at the negative things instead of the
positive things that I did.  Why do we do that?  We tend to
always look back at the negative and not the positive.

We’re all growing and learning were here on earth to learn and
grow, we’re not perfect.  So, that’s why sometimes we do those
crazy things like looking back at the negative instead of trying
to find out what was really good to and think about all those
good things we did.

Now, looking back on the negative is only a good thing when
you going to try and learn from it, when you’re going to try and
make better choices and maybe change direction in your life
and really be on a good path and maybe even trying to change
your behavior or anything like that.

But, it’s really not a good idea to look back at the negative and
then torture yourself about the bad things that you’ve done, and
it’s just a natural human tendency that we have.  We’re not taught
as little kids to look back the things that didn’t go right or the
things that we’ve done wrong and try to learn from it.

I think they need to teach all these things in school,  even as
early as elementary.  What do you think?  Let me know.

What impact it’s having on our lives when we think about all
the negative things, or just the whole idea of looking back at
the negative is kind of scary.

So, what impact is it having on your life, let me ask you that.
So think back at the last time you looked back at your past
and depending on how old you are, you can have many, many
years on things that you’ve done that maybe you wish you
could change.

Of course we can’t wish and we can’t change the past, but
think about things that you’ve thought about recently that
you’ve done in the past and it was really negative, and then
it just got you down thinking about it because, that’s one of
the things that looking at your negative past does to you – if
you’re not using it to help correct your life now and you’re just
trying to beat yourself up about all the bad things that you’ve
done.   

When was the last time you thought about that and what did
it do to you?

Did it put you in a state of depression?

Did it just want to make you eat sugar?

Did it just want to make you scream?

Think back to when the last time it was, it could have been
today, it could have been last month, who know!  We have so
many thoughts that go through our head every day that it’s
just amazing.        

Each podcast I always say “write everything down, get it out
of your head”, by now I hope that you actually have written
things down.  Maybe you bought a notebook or created your
own.  Write it down, it has such an amazing effect when you
physically write it on paper verses on your computer or smart
phone.

I’ve talked about this many times in my different episodes.
But think about it, write it down – what was the last thing that
you thought about that was negative and when was it.  Think
about how you could actually turn that around and make it so
that it could actually help you in your life verses just using it
to torture yourself, because that really doesn’t help you or
anyone around you.

Because when you start to get depressed or frustrated, we
tend to take it out on the people that are the closest to us –
our family and even sometimes friends or if you work.  If you
have a job around a lot of other people and somebody’s irritating
you, you might just want to take out your irritation on them.

Think about that, what is that thing that you keep thinking about?
A lot of times it’s just a couple of things, sometimes we don’t
think about the many, many things we did, but somethings
there’s a couple things that we tend to torture ourselves with.

I know because I’ve actually done that, I’ve realized that it was
usually just a couple of things that I used to torture myself with –
thinking about how stupid it was, why did I do that it made no sense.

Who knows what else, I don’t even want to remember the
thoughts that I was thinking at the time.

What you have to remember is that we’re human and we have
to learn all these things, nobody teaches us these things when
we were little.

So, if you’ve never been taught how to do certain things, now’s
a good time to start taking notes.

I always encourage people to listen to these episodes more
than once because you can always learn something new when
you listen to each episode more then one time, because there’s
so much content involved and so many things that I’m talking
about.

So, start by writing things out and just go back in your mind.
If it’s to hard, then maybe you have to work yourself up to
thinking about it instead of just trying to go back there in your
mind.

Sometimes if you think about it, when you actually can get it
out of your head – get it out of your thoughts, it’s easier to let
it go.  We like to hold on to every good and bad.

It’s not really healthy for us to hold on everything that’s not
working for us.  It’s a good start, it’s a good practice to have –
to write everything out.

It starts the process of you recognizing it and then eventually
you’ll have the ability to let it go.  Well, you actually have to
want to let it go first before you can let it go.

I would say, after you get it out on paper think about why you
were even thinking about that because sometimes when you’re
doing something, there’s always a trigger somewhere.  When
you’re doing something or you’re in a location or you’re around
certain people, there’s those triggers that pop into your head
and reminds you of the past of those negative things that you’ve
done.  Sometimes it’s a place or a person that is the cause of
this, we have to take responsibility ourselves for inappropriate
actions.

Sometimes if there’s another person involved, it could be the
other person just making you crazy and who knows you could
have said something really horrible or if that person was irritating
you, you could have just snapped and said something that really
you shouldn’t have that really hurt that other person.

Who knows, there’s endless possibilities of things that could
have happened.  Catch yourself too, as you go about your daily
life, really catch yourself in everything that you do.  Think about
the things that you say and the places that you go, think about
what  you’re doing and if you’re starting to say something that
you know you’re going to regret!  Then try to catch yourself and
stop yourself from saying something that could be really harmful
to somebody else and the more you practice that, the easier it
becomes to start catching yourself.

Of course it is a little bit of work, but once you get that habit
going of – always thinking about what you’re going to say first.
It really will make a big difference.

I’m on of those, that I like to speak my mind so sometimes I
don’t think about what I’m saying, I just open my mouth and I
realize that I shouldn’t have said that.  Now I really try to work
on thinking about what I’m going to say first.  I’ve been to places
where I’ve said things and then I thought “oh” and if my husband
was with me, he would tell me later “why did you say that!”  I
would just be in a state of shock like “oh, yah I don’t know why
I said that” and of course he’s either embarrassed or he’s just
confused as to why I say the things I say.

Sometimes we do that to our spouses, (but not on purpose)
It’s a give and take right! 😉

I just want to encourage you to try and catch yourself whenever
you’re going throughout your day and sometimes it doesn’t
even involve anybody else when you do things that really are
negative and sometimes it’s just you.  It’s O.K., just know t
hat you’re human and you’re just like everybody else who’s
trying to work through this life and learn and grow to become
a better person.

If you can just start with these few things, it will really make you
feel good.  I didn’t realize how good it made me feel when I
realized a while back that I was doing this crazy thing on just
torturing myself about all the negative things that I’ve ever done
in the past and it really was eye-opening and now I’m so glad
that I recognized it and I’m trying to work on  not torturing myself.
I’ve come a long way, it’s taken  awhile.  I don’t want to feel yucky
like that anymore and sometimes there’s no better word to use
then yucky, because yucky is just kind of a mishmash of a whole
bunch of feelings.  You just get tired after a while of feeling yucky
and you just don’t want it anymore.  You got to figure out why
you’re feeling yucky and one of the things that makes you feel
like that is just looking back on all this negativity.

Try and make it an effort, you might even want to make it a
practice everyday to start looking at all the positive things that
you’ve ever done, the people’s lives that you’ve impacted the
things that you’ve accomplished or anything that’s good.

Start cheering for yourself, start celebrating the wonderful things
that you’ve done.  Celebrating yourself, it doesn’t have to be
this big celebration that’s not what I’m talking about, but of
course you can do that if you want.

Just celebrate with yourself or with a friend or your family or
anybody.  Go out and get a snack or go get a bite to eat and
just celebrate and talk about the positive and you’ll be really
amazed at what a difference it will make and how you’ll feel.

I really encourage you to take this step forward because this
kind of looking back stuff really prevents you from moving
forward in your life.  It’s really hard to overcome things and
accomplish great things and great things are different to
everybody, but it’s really difficult when you’re constantly
looking back at the negative.

Try and NOT look back and try to work towards focusing on
the positive.

I promise you, you’ll be really happy and might even feel some
excitement that “hey, I can do this”.

I want you to email me, connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com,
let me know how you’re doing and if you need help I’ll would be happy
to help you, you can email me for a free consultation, you can send
me a voicemail – just go to my website at fashionablefinance.com
and on the right hand side is the voicemail tab you can leave me
a voicemail message and let me know what you think.

Your feedback is wonderful too, I really appreciate you letting
me know what you like and what you don’t and the things that
you want to hear about.

Again I would ask you to please share this podcast with anybody
who you think would get great value out of it, maybe you know
somebody struggling with something that maybe listening to
any of these episodes will help them.  You can send them to
my website at fashionablefinance.com and it has all the episodes
there, they can listen or you can go to iTunes and just search
for Fashionable Finance and while you’re there in iTunes, I would
love for you to give me a rating and an honest review – please
be honest so that I know what’s working and what’s not and
what you like and what you don’t like.

It’s O.K. I can take the truth, I’m more mature now so I can
deal with it.

I thank you again for listening I really appreciate you being here
and I hope you have a fantastic day.

a hui hou malama pono – until next time, take care

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com
and www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

Dennis Pavao-Album Cover

 

 

 

 

Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.

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episode #016 – 10 Questions You Need To Include In The Conversation You Have With Yourself Everyday

10 Questions

In this episode I share with you the10 questions
you need to include in the conversation you
have with yourself everyday.

The person we have a conversation with the
most every single day is ourselves.  You may
not have even realized it until now, but if you
just take a moment to think about all the things
that you think about every day of your life, you’ll
come to realize that most of it was talking to
yourself , also know as: conversations with
yourself.

It’s pretty amazing when you think about it, that we have these conversations
all day long and I wonder how in the world can we do that when we have so
many things going on.

These conversations actually do one of two things: they either help us or
hurt us.  And this is what I mean, it so easy for us to say negative things
to ourselves when we feel like we’re not smart enough or when we compare
ourselves to other people and much more.  By doing that and saying these
negative things to ourselves, it really has such a hurtful effect on your mind,
body and spirit.

Now when on an occasion or two we say good things to ourselves, then
it helps our happy hormones to feel good and leads us to feel happiness
and joy.  That also makes our mind, body and spirt happy too, and we
want to feel happiness and joy right?

I would love for you to start having great conversations with yourself as
soon as possible.  You’re definitely worth it and I hope that you know
know that you’re worth it.

I have a list of 10 questions that I put together for you to use everyday.
Start each day by reviewing all of these questions so that it can eventually
become cemented in your mind, which will lead to you automatically asking
yourself these questions on a daily basis.  It’s a pretty neat things to have
that happen.

Many years ago I started to ask my self these questions and many more
all the time.  It’s amazing what you start to realize when you do this everyday.

These are the questions:

1.  How can I make it important to consider and honor my own needs?

~You need to honor and take care of yourself first in order for you
to take care of other people.

2.  What is it going to take for me to start speaking the truth to myself,
     because truth is powerful?

~Have you ever heard the saying that truth hurts?  Well, it only hurts
when you are in denial about something.  Once you are ready to
face the truth, the truth will set you free.  I’m sure you’ve heard that
too.  It’s really not that scary like you might think.

3.  How am I going to know of my self-worth which is priceless?

~Knowing your worth is the key to everything which makes it
priceless.  Many of your struggles would disappear if you knew
your worth deep down in your heart.  The worth of your soul
is great in the sight of God.

4.  How can I let go of any fear that I have?

~Holding on to fear can be so devastating in so many ways. If you
haven’t already listened to episode #011 on Fear, then I invite you
to go and listen to it after.  Letting go of fear is so liberating.

5.  Do I have things that I doubt?  And if I do how do I let it go of that doubt?

~Doubt your doubt before you just accept it.  Episode #012 of this
podcast is about Doubt, so go and listen to that episode if you
haven’t had the opportunity yet and it will help you understand
a little bit more about this crazy thing called doubt.

6.  How do I let go of any shame that I feel?

~So many times shame just gets in the way of moving forward and
asking questions.  Again, in this podcast I created episode #013
that talks about Shame.  Please go and listen to it to get a better
understanding of shame.

7.  What value do I bring to my life and to those that are in my life?

~Have you ever thought about the value that you bring to yourself
and anyone else that you come in contact with, including your
family, friends, co-workers, etc?  Everyone has value that is
important to relationships, starting with the relationship with
yourself and then with everyone else.  The gifts, talents and
knowledge that you possess are of great value and need to
be held as such.  All of those things helps to create meaning
in your life and in the lives of those you care about.

8.  What is it going to take for me to feel joy everyday?

~Where here on earth to have joy as well as other things and
sometimes it’s hard to feel joy when life is moving so quickly.
So ask yourself if you’re feeling joy and if not, why not.

9.  Do I know that creativity is something that is already inside of me,
not outside of me?

~Everyone on this planet has the gift of creativity within them.  It is
not something that you acquire, it is a God given gift and it has a
purpose.  Everything you do is a creation.  Think about that everyday.

10. What do I need to do to be the creator of my success?

~It has to start with you and the decision that you make about creating
your success.  You have to want it and then take the steps needed in
order for success to happen.  Now, you don’t have to ask yourself
these questions in the order that I have them listed because it’s not
the order in which you ask these questions, but it’s the nature of the
questions themselves.
These are really powerful questions and to be asking yourself about
these things will have such a powerful effect on you and your life.
I can promise you that.

I have done it myself for years and I can tell you that it has had such a great
and powerful impact on me and how I live my life.  I know that I have become
a much better person in how I do things, the way I live my life and much more.
I’m not saying that I have it all figured out or I’m perfect because I don’t have
it all figured out and I know I’m far from perfect. I just feel better mentally,
emotionally and spiritually and I would love for you to feel all of that too.

Like I always say, write things down, get it out of your head and on to paper.
Writing things down has power.  It’s amazing what happens when you actually
read your own writing.  As much as possible I recommend writing thing down
on paper with a writing instrument of some kind instead of typing it out on your
phone or computer.

I invite you to try this out for 7 days and see how you feel after just a week of
asking yourself these powerful questions.  You will be glad you did.

Please send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com and let me know if
you’ve tried this exercise and how it worked for you.  I would really love to hear
from you.  I welcome any questions that you might have as well.

You can also go to www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the tab on the right side of the screen.

You can connect with me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
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I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

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a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #015 – Sometimes The Only Thing We Can Do Is To Make It Through The Day

Have you ever had a time in your life where things were so
stressful and there was a lot going on?  Are you going through
it now?

Because life throws curve balls at you and you may not be
prepared or feel like you’re ready to take on those curve
balls, that you just feel like screaming or maybe even crying!

Curve balls a.k.a.: a flat tire or a car accident on the freeway
and now you’re going to be 30 minutes late to work or an
appointment, or as soon as you get to work you get a phone
call from your child’s school that he or she is feeling sick and
you need to pick him or her up as soon as possible, or you

get home from work and somebody in your family reminds you
that you signed up to bring snacks to a school or committee
meeting that night, or how about all of these things happening
in one day!

At this point you’re thinking no way…this cannot be happening!
And you start to wonder if you can make it through the rest of
the day.

This is just an example of a few of the many endless things
that has happened to me and many other people that I know.

I’m sure you can relate as you are reading this.

With life being so busy and moving fast, sometimes the only
thing you can do it make it through the day and not worry about
tomorrow or the future.

I want to let you know that you’re not alone, life likes to keep you
on your toes which at times can seem relentless.  It seems like the
light at the end of the tunnel is not even in your view or you don’t
even have the energy to dream of the light.

When these things are happening, have you ever had the thought
of “I just want to get on an airplane and fly off somewhere where
nobody can find me”.  Well, I have had that thought many, many
times.  Although it’s never happened…I’ve never gotten on an
airplane and flew off to somewhere far away when life was throwing
me curve balls.

It’s a great thought though, don’t you think?

Sometimes the frustration level is so high that you just feel like
you just can’t deal with all the stress that’s happening in one day.

Well, looking back at those times of dealing with the curve balls
I realize that on quite a few occasions, that it was because of my
lack of planning and preparation.  Of course I’m talking about things
that I had control over, like having the snack ready ahead of time
and things like that.  Obviously I have no control over a flat tire,
a car accident on the freeway or my child getting sick at school.
But I do have control over other little things that I can put in place
and prepare for.

Hind sight is always great, because it means that you are willing
to see and learn from all the things that didn’t work in the past.
It’s also really important to realize that you can’t change the past.
It’s really easy to blame everyone and everything else instead of
just accepting what happened and realize that sometimes there’s
nothing that you can do or could have done in certain situations.

Women in general are so hard on themselves when things happen
and go in a direction that created pain or stress, that they start
saying things to themselves that are very emotionally, mentally and
spiritually harmful.

There is nothing that is worth that kind of pain to your emotions,
your 
mind or your spirit.

It really is OK to want to just make it through the day and nothing
more.  Just remember to breathe…

If and when you have curve balls coming at you, just remember that
you are only going to be better for having gone through it.

Here’s 4 things I suggest that you do:

1.  Set a specific day and time each week to go over your life and
what is going on during the coming week.

2.  Jot down on a paper calendar or your digital calendar, as many
notes as possible about what’s happening on each day and what
you need to do for each thing.

3.  Let everyone know that is involved in your activities.

4.  Look at your calendar multiple times a day.  You’ll be amazed at
how easily it is to forget what you put in the calendar.

It may sound a little too simple, but it really is powerful in helping
you deal with any curve balls.

Just trying to make it through the day is better than just giving up and
throwing in the towel and not dealing with the curve balls in a positive
way.

I would love to hear from you, tell me what kinds of curve balls you’ve
had in your life and how you dealt with it and let me know what you think,
send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com.  I would love to
hear from you.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

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The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #013 – Shame

 Aloha, in this episode I talk about shame.
I referenced episode #011 on Fear and episode #012 on Doubt.
Fear, Doubt and Shame are the three main things that women
suffer from.

Shame is a painful emotion that we need to talk about, woman
want to just hide it under the rug, but I don’t want that for you.
We need to figure out how to get rid of these feelings that are
not serving us.

There’s no room in our life for fear, doubt and shame.

Growing up, have you ever had an adult say to you “shame on you”?  If you
did, said or behaved in a certain way?

We don’t think about how it’s going to affect our kids when we say those
things to them.

Everything that goes on in our lives shapes who we are and who we become
and the feelings we have.  We take things on.

We need to work on letting go:

First – acknowledge that you have shame within yourself.

Shame will look different for everyone – some people have shame about how
they look, shame of being in public, or speaking up, there are so many because
we are all so different.

You can quiet down those feelings and let it go by understanding how it affects
you in your daily life, being ashamed about so many things prevents you from
achieving the things that you want or prevents you from moving forward on things.

The only way to accomplish things is to get out of our comfort zone and do the
things that are scary and do the things that you feel are shameful even though they
may not be.

I will always tell you to write things down on paper, writing with a physical instrument
will make a big difference.  Write everything down that you can remember about the
shame that you’re feeling, when it started, why you think you have this kind of shame
even though it might be scary, but in the end you’ll be glad you did.

Get it out of your head so that you can work on letting it go.

This will help you move forward in the right direction.  Holding on to the shame that
you have inside of you is not helping you at all.

Denial is also a really big enemy.

We have to have the good and the bad in our life, there’s no way that everything can
always be good.  We have to have the bad so that we can appreciate the good –
opposition helps us to grow and overcome those things, that’s how God intended life
to be.

Don’t be hard on yourself and get yourself down, it is possible to overcome all of these
things.  It may take a little time because you’ve probably had these feelings for a really
long time.  It’s amazing how long someone can hold on to feelings of fear, doubt and
shame.

Change is really hard and can be scary, but the more you experience change – you
start to realize that “hey it’s not so bad after all”.

Letting go could mean the unknown, what’s on the other end. If we let go of something,
you’ll feel much better and feel different.

Letting go will feel much better than holding on to the shame and other feelings that
are negative that aren’t helping you.

Sometimes it’s better to get some help with understanding and figuring out these
things, so if you would like my help you can email me at
janin@fashionablefinance.com
we can see if there’s any way that we can work together.  I’m here to support and
guide you in a way that would be best for you.

If you know anyone who is suffering from shame, then have them listen to this
podcast and share with them what you’re learning, it’s always good to help other
people.

Women love to talk with other women and discuss the problems of their day, so
how about you talk with each other about this subject of SHAME.

It always feels good when you help somebody that you care about, so I encourage
you to share this podcast with the people that you know.

Shame affects our lives by making us feel like were not good enough, shame has
so many different faces.  If you don’t feel like you’re good enough to do very many
things, then you just go through life living the same-old, same-old not wanting to
stretch yourself or to make improvements or to work towards a dream or goal that
you have.

You are worth your dreams and it’s worth going towards your goals, we all have
dreams and goals.

We let life get in the way because we aren’t paying attention to those things that
are really important and shame seems to get in our way.

It pops up and gets in our face and makes you feel like you can’t do it or you’re
not worth it.

If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’s OK, the feeling should pass, it won’t stay with
you forever.  Feel those feelings because if you try to ignore it that’s when shame
pops up in your face, and you’re not going to know what it is or how to deal with it.
It’s so important to know how to recognize it.

You’re worth it, you’re worth the time it takes to get out of the denial and face your
shame and admit that you have it so you can overcome it.

Good and bad words have power whether we realize it or not, everything you hear
and say affects you emotionally, mentally, spiritually.  So if you ever hear someone
that you know say “shame on you” please encourage them to not say that.

If you can learn to speak up and start to recognize these things and be vocal about
it will be so much more powerful in helping move you forward in overcoming this
shame.

Fear, doubt and shame holds you and keeps you down and makes you crazy
because you just don’t understand why it’s there or why doesn’t it just go away.

I welcome any comments or questions if you have any.

Would you like me to share a new Hawaiian word on each episode of this podcast.
The Hawaiian language is so beautiful and fascinating, that’s why I use the word
“Aloha” a lot because it more then one meaning.  It means: love, hello, goodbye, I
care.  And so much more.

A hui hou malama pono (take care, until we meet again)

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

Dennis Pavao-Album Cover

 

 

 

 

Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.

 

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