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Fear…We Can Overcome It!

We all suffer from FEAR and it ranges in degree.  If you have or ever had fear,
just know that it is possible to overcome it, but first you have to recognize that
you have fear.

 

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Your Self-Worth Matters!

√7:14:16 How you feel aboutyourself on the insidewill always show onthe outside.

Have you ever felt like there are some things that you’re struggling with
and that you’ll never overcome them?  I know I have!

There seems to be a problem that’s common among many of the women that I talk with
in my community, women that I teach and women that I do business with… and, it’s low
self-worth.  Have you ever thought about that?

With all of the things that get in our way, low self-worth is the one (thing) that is not so
recognizable.  Now why is that?  I’d like to share with you what I know and what I’ve
learned.

Low self-worth affects everything you do.

It’s really running your life without you even realizing that it’s happening.

Low self-worth has symptoms like a low grade fever – it’s there, but not that noticeable
or recognizable, so you still go about your daily life trying to get things done.  You feel
like there’s a conflict that’s going on inside of you.

You start to wonder and even question yourself about what could be happening.  Could
there be a problem with me?  Do you dare to even wonder about something like that, is
it even possible?

You think to yourself ‘someone please tell me what’s going on!’… When is this (frustration)
going to stop? (that’s what I’ve said to myself).  Aren’t things supposed to get easier as
life and time goes on, and, as your skills and knowledge about yourself and life grow?

You are made up of many, many layers as a human being – some of the main ones are
the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical layers that are inseparably a part of you.

Therefore, there are triggers that make some of those layers start shaking, and, you
have no idea what’s going on!  It happens week after week, month after month and
you start to get really frustrated with yourself and your life.

Triggers come from many sources that you probably have never even thought of.
Take a look at some of the sources that are listed below that affect your self-worth.

Sources of Low Self-Worth:

  • Family
  • Your role in your family growing up
  • How you were treated and that same treatment was transferred down
    from generations
  • If you were abused
  • What people have told you
  • Cultural experiences
  • Modeled by other people in your family
  • Stories you tell yourself
  • Your role in social groups

Things People Have Said To You:

  • Don’t be big head
  • Who do you think you are
  • Don’t show off
  • Why can’t you be like your brother/sister
  • You’re stupid
  • Don’t be an idiot
  • You’re not smart enough
  • Keep your mouth shut and stop asking so many questions

Signs & Symptoms of Low Self-Worth:

  • Need validation
  • Put on a facade
  • Admire other peoples gifts and not your own
  • Refuse to set goals because you know you won’t reach it
  • Always trying to please people
  • Tired all the time
  • No motivation
  • Self-conscious
  • You don’t start things or don’t take action
  • Can’t look in the mirror without thinking bad things about yourself
  • Focused on yourself

Thoughts, Feelings & Emotions (DISGUISED):

  • “I’m not smart enough”
  • “I’m not pretty enough”
  • “What will people think of me”
  • Shame
  • Fear
  • Doubt
  • Worry about being rejected
  • Afraid that people will find out about your feelings of low self-worth

Things You Say To Yourself Out Loud:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not smart enough
  • I’m so bad
  • I can’t afford that
  • No sense I set a goal when I know I won’t reach it!

Noticeable Behaviors:

  • Over extend yourself because, you can’t say NO!
  • Bullying, exerting power over someone
  • Abusive
  • Undisciplined
  • Lazy
  • Sleep a lot
  • Sarcastic
  • Give up half way through things
  • Don’t do what you say you’re going to do
  • Procrastinate
  • Always saying “I can’t afford it”
  • Critical to yourself and others
  • Overachiever
  • Underachiever

Intangible Effects Of Low Self-Worth:

  • Not following your dreams
  • Low self-esteem
  • What you choose to believe about yourself
  • Comparison

Visual Effects:

  • Wear clothes that are too tight
  • Wear clothes that are too large
  • Wear clothes that are worn out
  • Wear clothes that are not age appropriate

*Your clothes are an expression of how you feel about yourself on the inside.

                     √7:13:16Your Worth And Money Are NOT Synonymous

Financial Effects:

  • Spend more money than you have
  • Rack up credit card debt
  • Don’t buy nice things for yourself
  • Don’t keep track of your money and spending
  • Not able to differentiate between needs and wants

*Your relationship with money is not only a mindset, but it’s also a whole way of being.

Your self-worth drives everything you do!

How you feel about your worth as a human being is so powerful that If you allow it,
low self-worth will always win out in the end.

It’s so important to know of your worth and that you’re worth is great!

This is what I recommend:
1.  Acknowledge your gifts, talents and skills that you have, that you’ve gained or acquired.
Know who you truly are!

2.  Know that what you do matters in the lives of the people you touch.

3.  Have a desire to want to know of your worth, even if you can’t see your worth,
you can come to feel of your worth.

Combat low self-worth with truth!

You can always have peace when you speak the truth to yourself.  Maybe you weren’t
told how special you are and that you’re a gift from God, but that doesn’t mean that
it’s not true.  I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that it is true!

Be charitable to yourself, you’re always charitable to other people, so, don’t forget
about you and that you matter.  Make this journey you’re on worth every moment as
you feel of your self-worth.

                 The Worth OfYour Soul Is GreatIn The Sight Of God

 

When you focus on your gifts that you’ve been given from God, then you will start to
feel your worth as you use those gifts to serve others and well as yourself.  It might
feel like a slow and gradual process of getting to know and feel of your self-worth,
but, what a great feeling it will be.

You and I – together, let’s toss out this low self-worth and low grade fever, so that we
don’t give it any room to move around or grow!

The time to feel and know of your worth is now!

Let me help you create an amazing relationship with yourself.
Connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com

Aloha,

Janin

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Feeling Bad About Your Body At The End Of The Holiday Celebrations?

Feeling Bad About Your Body At The End Of The HolidayCelebrations-

Are you coming off of the holidays and end of the year celebrations feeling yucky?
(yucky is a real word, I looked it up in the Webster’s Dictionary)

Yucky seems to be the only word that really describes what it feels like after
the Holidays.

Just when you thought you had enjoyed the holidays- something crept in to
make you feel yucky because maybe, you ate too much and you didn’t take
care of yourself during the holidays.  Or, maybe you spent way more money
than you had, and you don’t want anyone to know about any of these things.

It happens to the best of us – you’re not alone.

It’s common that many women feel bad about their body after the holidays
especially when they felt like they ate way too much.  There’s so much
temptation with all the amazing food that’s around.  That can make anyone
crazy.

I want to ask you some questions and take a minute to think about it:

  • Do you have bad or negative feelings about your body?

  • Do you find yourself not wanting to look in the mirror
    because you don’t want to see how much weight you
    have gained?

  • Do you find yourself wearing baggy clothes because
    you don’t want people to see how much weight you
    have gained?

  • Are you stressing out because you spent way too much
    money and now you don’t know how you are going to
    pay your bills this month?

The end of the holidays and the start of the new year is not supposed to feel like this.
Right?

How do you feel about it?  Whatever your thoughts are about that, it’s O.K. that’s just
part of life.

If you let it, feeling yucky about those things can consume your life.

Feeling bad about your body didn’t just start during this past holiday season.  Feeling
bad about your body always starts at an early age and I’ve talked a little bit about it
before.

Wearing baggy or oversized clothes is not the solution.

Why would you want to torture yourself and feel bad about your body and how you
look?   

Here is what I want you to put into place because you’re worth it:  Start treating your
body like it’s a gift.  I know it sounds crazy, but just trust me and try it out.

God gave you and I an amazing body and we have to appreciate it and think of it as
a gift.

Just think about all of the wonderful things your body can do – walk, run, give a hug
and so much more.

Turn that torture and bad feelings about your body and how you look upside down
and see what’s on the other side.  It’s the same thing with your finances if you spent
more than you had.

Sometimes we all do things that are not the best for us.  That’s part of being human
and living life.  You have to experience things that are both good and bad, so that
you can learn and grow.  Welcome to life!

Now is the best part… decide what you want.  Do you want to continue to feel
bad about your body and your finances or do you want to work on letting it go?

A word of caution! . . . what ever you do, don’t compare yourself to anyone else
on this planet.  Comparison will knock you down and keep you down.  Remember
that you are unique, there is no one else like you on this earth.

You are special.

Making a decision on what you want is so powerful.  No one can ever take that
away from you.  Yes, it will take work for you to let go and overcome those bad
feelings, but it’s so worth it.

Anything of worth is going to take some work to make it better, and now is a
great time to get started and make that decision to overcome any bad feelings.
Especially since it’s the beginning of a new year and there seems to be a feeling
of hope at this time.

Remember, it’s not worth it to start off a new year feeling bad about your body
and your finances.

I am here to help you with your body image and getting your finances straight.
It is possible to feel good and get things in order.

Please contact me so that I can help you get started today.

Aloha, Janin

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episode #023 – Every Woman Has Secret Feelings About Her Body

Every Women Has Secret Feelings About copyToday I want to talk about the topic that ‘every woman as
secret feelings about how she feels about her
body!’

I wanted to start off by letting you know that this is really
common.  Every woman has secret feelings about she
feels about her body.

Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind
and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with,
it starts when you were a baby.

The one thing that I have always thought was really fasci-
nating is how little baby girls are so aware of what’s going
on around them.  If you’ve ever watched little babies, you’ll
understand what I’m talking about – it’s really fascinating.

They seem to be so much older than they really are!  I think
it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have come to
earth and they’re so much more valiant then ever before,
they’re just so much smarter.

And for that reason I want to focus on baby girls that
become toddlers, pre-teenagers, teenagers and then
women because, those are the stages in a woman’s
life that she becomes more and more aware of how her
body looks as she gets older. If you’re a woman, you
should have gone through all of those stages in your
life and are now you’re at a point where you have rec-
ognized that you have these secret feelings about your
body!

Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have
both good and bad feelings about certain parts of your
body because maybe, you might like your legs but not
really liking the rest of your body.  There’s no end to
what a woman can feel.

Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going
on around them, all the time.  That’s just how girls are
created, we’re just aware of everything.  If you think
about it, that kind of awareness is something that con-
tinues on into adulthood.  I know it’s definitely a gift
from God given to baby girls, so that when they grow
up and become adults and have their own families they
will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture
their own children.

With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about
their body is something that they learn from the women
around them.  It’s usually a woman and/or grandmother
that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.
A lot of grandparents are raising kids now days and it’s
been happening for decades.

Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl
hears about her body and other women’s bodies is taken
in and processed in a very unique way deep within her
mind and heart, because everyone is different.

We take all of these things in, and I’m speaking for myself
too.

From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years
working with women and having women clients, is that
most of what they say about their bodies is usually negative.
There were some that had extremely negative feelings too.

Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought
I’ve heard it all!  But, you know what happens when I have
to take my clients body measurements?  They start to reveal
their secret feelings about how they feel about their body,
because I’m wrapping a tape measure around them.

I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me
take their body measurements, so they trust me enough to
tell me how they feel…about a lot of things besides their body.

They’ve said things like – they’ve heard women in their life
say things out loud like – I have a big butt, I’m so fat, I’m
too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank),
my boobs are not big enough, I have thunder thighs!  Wow!

That would scare anyone.  These are only a few of the things
that women think and secretly feel about themselves, I have
heard many more things from women but I won’t list them all
because it’s really sad.

I just love people so much that I don’t even want to say some
of the things that I’ve heard.

A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies
are a learned behavior and comparing themselves to other
women.  It’s just natural for a little girl growing up to copy
what the women in their life are feeling, what they’re saying
and what they’re doing – even if it’s harmful to their mind,
their heart, their body and their spirit.

It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about
your body. (I just wanted to let you know)

It will take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of
those negative feelings that have been dragging you down
for who knows how long.  It’s not worth holding on to negative
secret feelings that are probably not true.

I’ve heard a lot of things that I know are not true about what
these women are saying.

Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful
thing, because that makes us all unique.  You have to know
that your value as a woman is priceless.  I hope you ladies
think about this!

One of the most powerful things that you can do to get
started on having a more positive feeling about your body
is by learning how to dress for your body shape, and your
height.

I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way
that makes you look good in the clothes that you have on!
I’ve seen it over and over again for many years how wearing
the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right parts
of your body (not that there’s a wrong part of your body), but
you want to put an emphasis on the right parts and not only
that, but wearing the right styles of clothing that fits you per-
fectly and it just happens to give you a boost of confidence
when you are wearing clothes that fits you right and you feel
good in it.

Now that, I say is powerful!  We all want confidence right!

Always remember – you want to wear clothes that work best
for YOUR body shape and height, and not wear the style of
clothes that the fashion models are wearing that you see on
commercials and in magazines and bill-boards, you see it
everywhere.

A these images that you see are photoshopped, none of it is
real.  Just remember these things.

When YOU look good, you FEEL good!  Looking good is
different for everyone.

I wanted to share that with you today, it is possible for
everyone to look good in the clothes that their wearing.

As I share more podcast episodes, as I mix in the fashion
and the style and the clothing fit in with your finances – I’m
going to show you how it all works together.

I thank you and I really want you to send me a message,
you can either email me at janin@fashionablefinance.com
or you can go to my website and send me a voicemail message.

I would love to hear what you would want to know about and
some of the things that you’re feeling or some of the things
that you’re learning or any ah-ha moments.  I would love that!
It really makes my day when I get messages from people.

I really hope that you really get a lot of value and maybe even
re-listen to this episode, because these secret feelings about
your body – maybe you want to think about it and see.  Are your
feelings negative or positive?

I would love for you to share this podcast with anybody who
you feel would benefit from listening to all of these things that
I’m teaching and sharing.

I hope you have a great day and I’ll see you soon, and I will
definitely be talking with you again.

a hui hou, malama pono – until next time, take care!

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who
you think would get some value out of listening to the different
episodes.  I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me
a voice message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com
and www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
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iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

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Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
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episode #016 – 10 Questions You Need To Include In The Conversation You Have With Yourself Everyday

10 Questions

In this episode I share with you the10 questions
you need to include in the conversation you
have with yourself everyday.

The person we have a conversation with the
most every single day is ourselves.  You may
not have even realized it until now, but if you
just take a moment to think about all the things
that you think about every day of your life, you’ll
come to realize that most of it was talking to
yourself , also know as: conversations with
yourself.

It’s pretty amazing when you think about it, that we have these conversations
all day long and I wonder how in the world can we do that when we have so
many things going on.

These conversations actually do one of two things: they either help us or
hurt us.  And this is what I mean, it so easy for us to say negative things
to ourselves when we feel like we’re not smart enough or when we compare
ourselves to other people and much more.  By doing that and saying these
negative things to ourselves, it really has such a hurtful effect on your mind,
body and spirit.

Now when on an occasion or two we say good things to ourselves, then
it helps our happy hormones to feel good and leads us to feel happiness
and joy.  That also makes our mind, body and spirt happy too, and we
want to feel happiness and joy right?

I would love for you to start having great conversations with yourself as
soon as possible.  You’re definitely worth it and I hope that you know
know that you’re worth it.

I have a list of 10 questions that I put together for you to use everyday.
Start each day by reviewing all of these questions so that it can eventually
become cemented in your mind, which will lead to you automatically asking
yourself these questions on a daily basis.  It’s a pretty neat things to have
that happen.

Many years ago I started to ask my self these questions and many more
all the time.  It’s amazing what you start to realize when you do this everyday.

These are the questions:

1.  How can I make it important to consider and honor my own needs?

~You need to honor and take care of yourself first in order for you
to take care of other people.

2.  What is it going to take for me to start speaking the truth to myself,
     because truth is powerful?

~Have you ever heard the saying that truth hurts?  Well, it only hurts
when you are in denial about something.  Once you are ready to
face the truth, the truth will set you free.  I’m sure you’ve heard that
too.  It’s really not that scary like you might think.

3.  How am I going to know of my self-worth which is priceless?

~Knowing your worth is the key to everything which makes it
priceless.  Many of your struggles would disappear if you knew
your worth deep down in your heart.  The worth of your soul
is great in the sight of God.

4.  How can I let go of any fear that I have?

~Holding on to fear can be so devastating in so many ways. If you
haven’t already listened to episode #011 on Fear, then I invite you
to go and listen to it after.  Letting go of fear is so liberating.

5.  Do I have things that I doubt?  And if I do how do I let it go of that doubt?

~Doubt your doubt before you just accept it.  Episode #012 of this
podcast is about Doubt, so go and listen to that episode if you
haven’t had the opportunity yet and it will help you understand
a little bit more about this crazy thing called doubt.

6.  How do I let go of any shame that I feel?

~So many times shame just gets in the way of moving forward and
asking questions.  Again, in this podcast I created episode #013
that talks about Shame.  Please go and listen to it to get a better
understanding of shame.

7.  What value do I bring to my life and to those that are in my life?

~Have you ever thought about the value that you bring to yourself
and anyone else that you come in contact with, including your
family, friends, co-workers, etc?  Everyone has value that is
important to relationships, starting with the relationship with
yourself and then with everyone else.  The gifts, talents and
knowledge that you possess are of great value and need to
be held as such.  All of those things helps to create meaning
in your life and in the lives of those you care about.

8.  What is it going to take for me to feel joy everyday?

~Where here on earth to have joy as well as other things and
sometimes it’s hard to feel joy when life is moving so quickly.
So ask yourself if you’re feeling joy and if not, why not.

9.  Do I know that creativity is something that is already inside of me,
not outside of me?

~Everyone on this planet has the gift of creativity within them.  It is
not something that you acquire, it is a God given gift and it has a
purpose.  Everything you do is a creation.  Think about that everyday.

10. What do I need to do to be the creator of my success?

~It has to start with you and the decision that you make about creating
your success.  You have to want it and then take the steps needed in
order for success to happen.  Now, you don’t have to ask yourself
these questions in the order that I have them listed because it’s not
the order in which you ask these questions, but it’s the nature of the
questions themselves.
These are really powerful questions and to be asking yourself about
these things will have such a powerful effect on you and your life.
I can promise you that.

I have done it myself for years and I can tell you that it has had such a great
and powerful impact on me and how I live my life.  I know that I have become
a much better person in how I do things, the way I live my life and much more.
I’m not saying that I have it all figured out or I’m perfect because I don’t have
it all figured out and I know I’m far from perfect. I just feel better mentally,
emotionally and spiritually and I would love for you to feel all of that too.

Like I always say, write things down, get it out of your head and on to paper.
Writing things down has power.  It’s amazing what happens when you actually
read your own writing.  As much as possible I recommend writing thing down
on paper with a writing instrument of some kind instead of typing it out on your
phone or computer.

I invite you to try this out for 7 days and see how you feel after just a week of
asking yourself these powerful questions.  You will be glad you did.

Please send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com and let me know if
you’ve tried this exercise and how it worked for you.  I would really love to hear
from you.  I welcome any questions that you might have as well.

You can also go to www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the tab on the right side of the screen.

You can connect with me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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iTunes, so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast  a rating and review
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a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #013 – Shame

 Aloha, in this episode I talk about shame.
I referenced episode #011 on Fear and episode #012 on Doubt.
Fear, Doubt and Shame are the three main things that women
suffer from.

Shame is a painful emotion that we need to talk about, woman
want to just hide it under the rug, but I don’t want that for you.
We need to figure out how to get rid of these feelings that are
not serving us.

There’s no room in our life for fear, doubt and shame.

Growing up, have you ever had an adult say to you “shame on you”?  If you
did, said or behaved in a certain way?

We don’t think about how it’s going to affect our kids when we say those
things to them.

Everything that goes on in our lives shapes who we are and who we become
and the feelings we have.  We take things on.

We need to work on letting go:

First – acknowledge that you have shame within yourself.

Shame will look different for everyone – some people have shame about how
they look, shame of being in public, or speaking up, there are so many because
we are all so different.

You can quiet down those feelings and let it go by understanding how it affects
you in your daily life, being ashamed about so many things prevents you from
achieving the things that you want or prevents you from moving forward on things.

The only way to accomplish things is to get out of our comfort zone and do the
things that are scary and do the things that you feel are shameful even though they
may not be.

I will always tell you to write things down on paper, writing with a physical instrument
will make a big difference.  Write everything down that you can remember about the
shame that you’re feeling, when it started, why you think you have this kind of shame
even though it might be scary, but in the end you’ll be glad you did.

Get it out of your head so that you can work on letting it go.

This will help you move forward in the right direction.  Holding on to the shame that
you have inside of you is not helping you at all.

Denial is also a really big enemy.

We have to have the good and the bad in our life, there’s no way that everything can
always be good.  We have to have the bad so that we can appreciate the good –
opposition helps us to grow and overcome those things, that’s how God intended life
to be.

Don’t be hard on yourself and get yourself down, it is possible to overcome all of these
things.  It may take a little time because you’ve probably had these feelings for a really
long time.  It’s amazing how long someone can hold on to feelings of fear, doubt and
shame.

Change is really hard and can be scary, but the more you experience change – you
start to realize that “hey it’s not so bad after all”.

Letting go could mean the unknown, what’s on the other end. If we let go of something,
you’ll feel much better and feel different.

Letting go will feel much better than holding on to the shame and other feelings that
are negative that aren’t helping you.

Sometimes it’s better to get some help with understanding and figuring out these
things, so if you would like my help you can email me at
janin@fashionablefinance.com
we can see if there’s any way that we can work together.  I’m here to support and
guide you in a way that would be best for you.

If you know anyone who is suffering from shame, then have them listen to this
podcast and share with them what you’re learning, it’s always good to help other
people.

Women love to talk with other women and discuss the problems of their day, so
how about you talk with each other about this subject of SHAME.

It always feels good when you help somebody that you care about, so I encourage
you to share this podcast with the people that you know.

Shame affects our lives by making us feel like were not good enough, shame has
so many different faces.  If you don’t feel like you’re good enough to do very many
things, then you just go through life living the same-old, same-old not wanting to
stretch yourself or to make improvements or to work towards a dream or goal that
you have.

You are worth your dreams and it’s worth going towards your goals, we all have
dreams and goals.

We let life get in the way because we aren’t paying attention to those things that
are really important and shame seems to get in our way.

It pops up and gets in our face and makes you feel like you can’t do it or you’re
not worth it.

If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’s OK, the feeling should pass, it won’t stay with
you forever.  Feel those feelings because if you try to ignore it that’s when shame
pops up in your face, and you’re not going to know what it is or how to deal with it.
It’s so important to know how to recognize it.

You’re worth it, you’re worth the time it takes to get out of the denial and face your
shame and admit that you have it so you can overcome it.

Good and bad words have power whether we realize it or not, everything you hear
and say affects you emotionally, mentally, spiritually.  So if you ever hear someone
that you know say “shame on you” please encourage them to not say that.

If you can learn to speak up and start to recognize these things and be vocal about
it will be so much more powerful in helping move you forward in overcoming this
shame.

Fear, doubt and shame holds you and keeps you down and makes you crazy
because you just don’t understand why it’s there or why doesn’t it just go away.

I welcome any comments or questions if you have any.

Would you like me to share a new Hawaiian word on each episode of this podcast.
The Hawaiian language is so beautiful and fascinating, that’s why I use the word
“Aloha” a lot because it more then one meaning.  It means: love, hello, goodbye, I
care.  And so much more.

A hui hou malama pono (take care, until we meet again)

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #012 – Doubt-It Doesn’t Have To Be!

Doubt - It Doesn't Have To Be!

Aloha, in this episode I talk about Doubt – It Doesn’t Have To Be!

I think a lot about all of you listeners every day and whatI can
share with you, and to share the things that I’ve learned and the
experiences that I had.

I want to talk about Doubt-It Doesn’t Have To Be!  I have met so
many people who suffer from doubt, we have so much that we
doubt in our daily lives.

I wanted to see the dictionary’s definition of ‘doubt’ and it says:to
be uncertain about, to consider questionable or unlikely, hesitate
to believe, to distrust, to fear, to be apprehensive about, to be
uncertain about something to be undecided in opinion or belief.

How many of you have a lot of doubt within you?

Fear and doubt have a strong connection.  Have you ever been
in a conversation with someone and they say to you “I doubt it”
without even doing the research and finding out if something is
true or not?

Have you ever questioned your doubt?  You should always doubt
the doubt before we just accept it.

Women suffer from Fear, Doubt and Shame.  What do you doubt in
your life?  Doubt comes from different places just like fear.  Doubt
really stops us from achieving a lot of things and has us feeling like
we can’t move forward.  It also prevents us from feeling joy and creating.

Writing everything down on paper about your doubt is a great way to
figure out what is it that you’ve been doubting all these years.  Write
down whatever’s going on in your life.  Write down if it’s a person that
your doubting, is it a place your at right now or is it a thing in your life
that you’re doubting.  Take the time to figure out what your doubts are.

We have to have trials and struggles in life, that’s how we can learn and
grow and to gain knowledge to be able to overcome our weaknesses,
that’s how God created life to be.

There is a doubt that you have that is preventing you from overcoming
a lot of things or achieving your goals.

Question the doubts.

Everyone I know has conversations in their mind, so why noT have a
conversation with yourself about figuring out what your doubts are and
how to overcome them.  Work it out in your mind.

We all have strengths and weaknesses.

If you need help with figuring out what you’re having doubts about, I
will be happy to help you, send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com.

Doubt is a big killer of joy and creativity.  Creativity is not limited to drawing
and painting, everything we do everyday is creative and were always creating.

I love people, I think people are really fascinating and we all need each other.
There’s so much we as women have to offer so many people, that’s why we
need to let go of the doubt.

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Morningside
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #011 – Fear!

FEARAloha, in this episode I talk about the dreaded topic of
FEAR!

Fear is everywhere, it so pervasive.

Fear shows it’s ugly self in so many different ways and
starts in childhood at such a tender age.

Everything we learn for the first few years of our lives is from our parents,
grandparent or aunts & uncles that raise us and it will look different for everyone.

Were here to gain knowledge, to grow and learn and to experience
things and to prepare to live in the eternities with God.

One of the steps you need to take to overcome your fear is to be creative
Being creative allows you to be in that space of “what’s possible”
because being in that space of fear shuts you down.

Everyone on this planet is given that gift of creativity from God.

It’s amazing how creative we are, its possible to be creative everyday
and have joy, you just have to want these things.

Everybody has their own interest in the creative space, so take the
time to find that creative gift that’s in you.  Once you get on that path,
you will be amazed at yourself.

It’s good to have somebody to work out your fears with and go step
by step to figure out what’s going on, maybe the other person you’re
working with will have an idea on how you can overcome your fear.
You don’t know what you don’t know.

It’s not worth it to give into that fear, why would you want to give into
something that is having such a negative effect on your life.

I want to encourage you with every fiber of my being to take these steps
to overcome fear, we all have so much to give and theres so much that
we can enjoy here in this life time.

Life doesn’t have to be terrible or fearful, it is possible to let it go.

Your life is so worth it!

I want to encourage you to face it, overcome it and let it go.  It may take
a little time because things worthwhile are worth doing.

I would love to talk with you and help you figure out how to overcome
your fear.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com
or you can leave me a voice mail at fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Morningside
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

Dennis Pavao-Album Cover

 

 

 

 

Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.

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