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episode #024 – What To Do About Comparing Yourself To Other People

What To Do About Comparing Yourself To Other People

Do you compare yourself to other people?

I don’t think it’s a new topic, but I want to talk about how it’s really not equal
– you, comparing yourself to other people, because we’re all created differently
and that’s the beauty of life is that we’re all different and I just want to let you
know there’s no two people –  even twins, identical twins are not exactly alike.

So because we’re not alike, you can’t compare yourself to other people.  I know
it’s a natural human tendency to compare yourself, and I know i’ve done it before,
but I try to I make it a practice of how I live my life now not to compare myself
and its’ great when you’re older, you get a lot wiser and you know better and
you realize that we’re all different and there’s nobody else like me.

I can’t be like somebody else that I admire.  I can admire the qualities that they
have, but it would be really doing myself a disservice to compare myself to them
because we all come to earth with our own gifts and our own talents.

If you focus on what you have and the gifts that you’ve been given and you try
to make use of those gifts and talents in your life, then you really don’t have time
to compare yourself to other people, and at the end of the day it really doesn’t
make you feel happy anyway!

Usually when you compare yourself to other people, it’s what you see on the
outside, you’re not looking at the whole picture.  You don’t know what their life
is like personally, you don’t know what kind of struggles they have going on
mentally and emotionally.

I would ask you to please look at your own gifts and your own talents and not
to compare yourself to other people.

As I continue to talk about clothing and style and fitting your clothes, what looks
good on you, I also give clothing care tips because it’s really important to care
about your clothes, not only to care about yourself but, you need to care about
your clothes, how to take care of it especially when you spend money on your
clothes – you want it to last as long as possible.

Even though I’m talking about all those other things, you need to make sure that
you just focus on yourself as far as focusing on what gifts you have – how can
you grow them, how can you make your gift become even better so that you
can share it with other people around you in your community, wherever you are,
wherever you go.

I know this because I’ve been working with a lot of women for many, many years
and I see the comparison that they do, even my conversations with them, they talk
about how they wish they “were like this person that they know” and this person
has ‘this’ quality or this person has a ‘perfect figure’.

We all have to embrace who we are, we have to embrace the gifts and just the
uniqueness that we are, I can’t even begin to express how important it is to
embrace your own gifts and uniqueness.

So, if you ever find yourself comparing yourself to other people, other women
-the first thing I would say is “just stop yourself”.

Just ask yourself some really, really great questions.

You can ask yourself questions like:

  • Is this serving me?

  • Is this making me feel good?
    (I can bet you that the answer will be no!)

Anytime you compare yourself to other people, the answer will always be NO.
I can guarantee you that!

I have never met anyone that has felt good after they’ve compared themselves
to someone else.

So just start by asking yourself powerful questions and when you do find yourself
comparing yourself to someone else, make sure you stop it and catch it.  Be aware
of it all the time because sometimes comparison can be a daily thing.

And then you realize after a while that it’s making you crazy, because we’re always
focused on someone else and we want to be like someone else when we’re not
realizing the uniqueness and the great qualities that WE have.

There’s always an underlying reason why we do that, sometimes we have self-worth
issues and we have self-esteem issues – even though we don’t want anyone to know
about them that we have them, we have them.

I have met a lot of people who didn’t want anyone to know, but it’s really obvious in the
way act and the conversations I have with them – the things that they say.  Eventually
people will admit that they have these self-esteem issues and self-worth issues and
there’s so many people that have them, so if you find that you’re in that position right
now of having those feelings, don’t be embarrassed, don’t get down on yourself.

Just be willing to recognize it and to work on it – that’s the first step is to be willing to
recognize it.  It’s easy to get into denial, denial can be something that’s really not good
for you and it’s always good to face the truth.  Sometimes we don’t like the truth, but
when we face it and we work towards overcoming it or letting go of the thoughts and
feelings that really don’t help us and serve us – we start to feel so much better.

Then you find that you will stop comparing yourself to other people, it is a daily thing,
but it’s worth it, that’s the thing about working on yourself is that the harder things
are always worth it and I invite you to take an inventory of what you are experiencing
in your life, in your thoughts and your emotions.  Are you comparing yourself to other
people?

Sometimes it’s hard to admit it and look at it, but I think it you’re at a place where it’s
just making you crazy then now is a good time to look at, to overcome it.  Of course
it will take steps to get there, but you really have to want to overcome these
comparisons.

Embrace your gifts and your uniqueness.

As I talk more and more about style and fashion, I have to include all these mental
and emotional thoughts and issues that we have before I can even really talk about
dressing so that you look good in your clothes and dressing so that your clothes fit
you properly, you have to work on the underlying things first before you can work
on the outer appearance, you have to work on the inner appearance, that may sound
strange but there is an inner appearance that happens on the inside that we try to
imagine ourselves to be, we can picture ourselves a certain way on the inside.

It’s OK, we all experience things in life.  That just helps us learn and grow.  We have
to have these struggles, so that we can become a better person, we can get to know
our strengths and our weaknesses and it just makes us ‘so much the wiser’ as work
and acknowledge these things.

Send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com, I’m here to help you and answer
any questions that you have.  Just remember, don’t compare yourself to other people
because it’s not serving you, embrace your uniqueness and the gifts that you have.

Have a good day, Aloha!

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who
you think would get some value out of listening to the different
episodes.  I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me
a voice message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com
and www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes so that you’ll never miss an
episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #023 – Every Woman Has Secret Feelings About Her Body

Every Women Has Secret Feelings About copyToday I want to talk about the topic that ‘every woman as
secret feelings about how she feels about her
body!’

I wanted to start off by letting you know that this is really
common.  Every woman has secret feelings about she
feels about her body.

Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind
and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with,
it starts when you were a baby.

The one thing that I have always thought was really fasci-
nating is how little baby girls are so aware of what’s going
on around them.  If you’ve ever watched little babies, you’ll
understand what I’m talking about – it’s really fascinating.

They seem to be so much older than they really are!  I think
it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have come to
earth and they’re so much more valiant then ever before,
they’re just so much smarter.

And for that reason I want to focus on baby girls that
become toddlers, pre-teenagers, teenagers and then
women because, those are the stages in a woman’s
life that she becomes more and more aware of how her
body looks as she gets older. If you’re a woman, you
should have gone through all of those stages in your
life and are now you’re at a point where you have rec-
ognized that you have these secret feelings about your
body!

Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have
both good and bad feelings about certain parts of your
body because maybe, you might like your legs but not
really liking the rest of your body.  There’s no end to
what a woman can feel.

Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going
on around them, all the time.  That’s just how girls are
created, we’re just aware of everything.  If you think
about it, that kind of awareness is something that con-
tinues on into adulthood.  I know it’s definitely a gift
from God given to baby girls, so that when they grow
up and become adults and have their own families they
will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture
their own children.

With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about
their body is something that they learn from the women
around them.  It’s usually a woman and/or grandmother
that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.
A lot of grandparents are raising kids now days and it’s
been happening for decades.

Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl
hears about her body and other women’s bodies is taken
in and processed in a very unique way deep within her
mind and heart, because everyone is different.

We take all of these things in, and I’m speaking for myself
too.

From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years
working with women and having women clients, is that
most of what they say about their bodies is usually negative.
There were some that had extremely negative feelings too.

Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought
I’ve heard it all!  But, you know what happens when I have
to take my clients body measurements?  They start to reveal
their secret feelings about how they feel about their body,
because I’m wrapping a tape measure around them.

I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me
take their body measurements, so they trust me enough to
tell me how they feel…about a lot of things besides their body.

They’ve said things like – they’ve heard women in their life
say things out loud like – I have a big butt, I’m so fat, I’m
too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank),
my boobs are not big enough, I have thunder thighs!  Wow!

That would scare anyone.  These are only a few of the things
that women think and secretly feel about themselves, I have
heard many more things from women but I won’t list them all
because it’s really sad.

I just love people so much that I don’t even want to say some
of the things that I’ve heard.

A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies
are a learned behavior and comparing themselves to other
women.  It’s just natural for a little girl growing up to copy
what the women in their life are feeling, what they’re saying
and what they’re doing – even if it’s harmful to their mind,
their heart, their body and their spirit.

It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about
your body. (I just wanted to let you know)

It will take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of
those negative feelings that have been dragging you down
for who knows how long.  It’s not worth holding on to negative
secret feelings that are probably not true.

I’ve heard a lot of things that I know are not true about what
these women are saying.

Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful
thing, because that makes us all unique.  You have to know
that your value as a woman is priceless.  I hope you ladies
think about this!

One of the most powerful things that you can do to get
started on having a more positive feeling about your body
is by learning how to dress for your body shape, and your
height.

I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way
that makes you look good in the clothes that you have on!
I’ve seen it over and over again for many years how wearing
the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right parts
of your body (not that there’s a wrong part of your body), but
you want to put an emphasis on the right parts and not only
that, but wearing the right styles of clothing that fits you per-
fectly and it just happens to give you a boost of confidence
when you are wearing clothes that fits you right and you feel
good in it.

Now that, I say is powerful!  We all want confidence right!

Always remember – you want to wear clothes that work best
for YOUR body shape and height, and not wear the style of
clothes that the fashion models are wearing that you see on
commercials and in magazines and bill-boards, you see it
everywhere.

A these images that you see are photoshopped, none of it is
real.  Just remember these things.

When YOU look good, you FEEL good!  Looking good is
different for everyone.

I wanted to share that with you today, it is possible for
everyone to look good in the clothes that their wearing.

As I share more podcast episodes, as I mix in the fashion
and the style and the clothing fit in with your finances – I’m
going to show you how it all works together.

I thank you and I really want you to send me a message,
you can either email me at janin@fashionablefinance.com
or you can go to my website and send me a voicemail message.

I would love to hear what you would want to know about and
some of the things that you’re feeling or some of the things
that you’re learning or any ah-ha moments.  I would love that!
It really makes my day when I get messages from people.

I really hope that you really get a lot of value and maybe even
re-listen to this episode, because these secret feelings about
your body – maybe you want to think about it and see.  Are your
feelings negative or positive?

I would love for you to share this podcast with anybody who
you feel would benefit from listening to all of these things that
I’m teaching and sharing.

I hope you have a great day and I’ll see you soon, and I will
definitely be talking with you again.

a hui hou, malama pono – until next time, take care!

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who
you think would get some value out of listening to the different
episodes.  I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me
a voice message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com
and www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #022 – It’s Time For Fashion!

It's Time For Fashion!

It’s Time for Fashion!

It’s time to add the FASHION into the FashionableFianance.com!

For a while now I’ve only been writing, talking and podcasting about
you and your finances.  While learning about your finances is extremely
important, so is fashion (in my opinion of course).

I say that fashion is important because everyone has to wear clothes!
That’s just the bottom line right?  There’s just no way around it,
especially when the weather is really hot and humid and you don’t
really want to put clothes on, we don’t have a choice – we all have
to wear clothes.

I will continue to talk about finances in between all of the fashion
information I share, because…what you wear does have an impact
on your finances!  I know you’re thinking “what?”  I will be sharing
with you why and how in the coming months.  So stay tuned!

For right now I want you to know that It’s important to care about
what you wear.

I have a question for you:

Did you ever stop to think about what you wear everyday?

Think about that for a minute.

With life being so busy all the time, it’s really hard to get everything
in your life working for you the way you want it on a daily basis.  We
have to juggle things sometimes and there’s always something that
comes up.

Fashion and clothes are not always the first thing on people’s mind
when they get up in the morning.  Sometimes I think a lot of people
are like me and are just happy to know that we even got out of bed,
especially when you’re tired and the bed is nice and cozy!

Ok, got a little off topic, but I just had to share that. 🙂

For some, the idea of having to put together an outfit feels frustrating
and then having to do it in the morning is even more frustrating,
especially if you’re in a rush to get ready, get children ready and get
out the door in time.  Oh yah, I forgot to mention all the stuff that needs
to happen in between the getting dressed and getting out the door.

There’s like a million things, especially if you have to make your own
lunch – who knows what else, it could add up to a lot of things.

It can make anyone crazy!  I’ve been there, done that.  It’s not fun.
Learning from the past is sooo great, because now I can help other
women with these kinds of things that I’ve gone through as a mother
with 4 children – trying to get out the door (In one piece) without
screaming and yelling at your children.

I’m not perfect, I did yell at my children but that’s for another time and
another story.

Learning how to dress and what clothes look best on you can be
simple and fun with some help if you’re open to recommendations.

Most women I know are open to learning what they can do to up their
style.

Who doesn’t want to look good in their clothes, right?

I do know that not everyone is interested in fashion and style, and
that’s OK, you don’t have to be.

BUT, you do have to be interested in knowing how to dress for your
body type, what colors look best on you and how to make sure your
clothes fit you properly.  All of these things will make a big difference
on how you feel while you’re wearing your clothes.

These three things are the most common areas of fashion and style
that a lot of people don’t know and understand, which ends up in
buying clothes that don’t work for them and a lot of money being
wasted on those items.

I know a few women that have bought clothes because they thought
the items were really nice and they loved the color and oh… it was on
sale and was really cheap, only to hang it in their closet with the store
tags still on the clothes and never, ever have these clothes seen the light
of day again.

Is that you?  Is there anyone out there that is doing that or has done that?

If you have, it’s OK.  No judgement here.

 

I would just recommend that you ask
yourself some questions, like:

~Are you ever going to wear that item of clothing in your lifetime?

~What did you like about that item, that made you buy it?

~Did you buy it because you were just having a bad day and needed
to do some emotional shopping?  (sometimes we have to do that!)

~Does it fit you right?  If you don’t remember, try it on.

If you do have these clothes hanging in your closet with the tags still
on them, go in there and ask yourself all these questions about each
items.

If you don’t know the answers to any of these questions, then I would
recommend that you give it to someone that you know who would really
appreciate it and would fit into it.  Or, if you are ashamed to give it to
someone that you know then consider donating it to an organization that
helps women get back up on their feet and helps them look for a job.

These organizations always need new items of clothing for women to
look professional while they are going on job interviews.

Either way, don’t hang onto it if you know you will never wear it.  It’ just
creates clutter and takes up space in your closet that you could be using
for something that you’ll actually wear on a regular basis.

Believe it or not, clearing out your closet is one of the first steps to
learning about how to dress for your body type, what colors look best
on you and having your clothes fit you right.

It’s the first step because when you have a closet full of clothes that
you don’t even wear, whether it’s brand new or not creates a place
of confusion and sometimes stress.

I can also bet that at least half of the clothes in your closet don’t fit
you right, I know this from experience.  Especially since I’ve sewn
for women for 25 years.

So, as soon as you can, open your closet and see what’s going on in
there.  Start by pulling out an item of clothing that still has tags on them,
or you know that you will never wear again.  A little at a time is the best thing
to do, don’t try to tackle your closet all in one day.  No stressing allowed.

I know that if you just start there, you will immediately feel an interesting
kind of relief.  Try it and find out!

If you live in Hawaii, I do have services where I can come and help you
with closet and your clothes, but if not, you can email me and send me
a message at janin@fashionablefinance.com.  You can also send me a
voicemail message and share with me the things that you’re feeling or
the things that you want to know, or the things that you’d like me to teach
on.

It’s always my pleasure to talk with people and see what they want to learn.

I’m so happy that you’re here and I would love it if you would share this
podcast with other people out there, especially women since I talk about
women most of the time.  There’s got to be somebody else out there that
you know who would get great value out of listening to this, and if they
don’t know what a podcast is then I think it’s time that you show them.

Thank you again for listening because I know everyone is so busy and
you could be somewhere else at this time, but you chose to listen to me
and I’m so grateful for that – Mahalo!

I hope to talk to you next time.

A Hui Hou Malama Pono, until next time, take care.

Aloha,

Janin

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #021 – Incorporating Fashion and Finance

Incorporating Fashion & Finance

I want to send out the Aloha Spirit to all of you.  I hope you get a lot
of value out of this podcast.

I wanted to let all of you listening know that I didn’t forget about you.
I’ve been working on incorporating fashion, style and clothing fit into
fashionable finance.

So far I’ve only been talking about is how to deal with you finances
and to have JOY at the same time, while letting women know that it’s
OK to talk about money and ask for help.

I also love to share and teach on the topics that can help you  improve
your life, because I
always want to inspire and help women and moms
who are really busy and to have them be able to learn on the go.

Sometimes it seems like that’s the only way we can get things accomplished
and learn

Helping women has always been really important to me my entire
adult life.  I think about all of you listeners all the time and wonder
what I can share with you that will make a difference in your life.

I think about it constantly because I love to share.

It’s time now to incorporate the style, fashion and clothing fit into this
podcast and not only talk about finances and life.  There’s a lot more
to learn and experience.  I’m all about creating experiences for people.
It was definitely been the highlight of my day when I was teaching my
students how to sew and how to incorporate everyday items into the
realm of creating and sewing, and just being creative.  It’s so easy to
combine the two.

And that’s where the magic happens is when my students had these
experiences and they got excited when they could see what I was
trying to show and teach them.  That’s what I want for you.

It can be a really magical experience when you combine two things
or ideas that you would never think could go together, but some how
it just works beautifully.

That’s like combining or meshing fashion and finance, it sounds a bit
strange but it works.

I hope to be able to show you how it works as time goes by and you
are able to listen to the other episodes that I have planned and I want
create for you.

And by the way I don’t teach fashion that teaches you how to be
trendy, because trendy only works for a select few women, (and
let me emphasize few!) for the most part it doesn’t work well overall.

So don’t worry that I’m going to be teaching about crazy fashion
trends and ideas that wouldn’t work for you.  I’m a no nonsense
type of person.  I teach what works and what doesn’t.  I feel that’s
the best way to go.  I like to teach so that you can get the best out
of what works for you and your figure and lifestyle.

I just wanted to share that with you, I wanted you to know that I have
more podcast episodes coming your way and I hope you find it
interesting.  I’m going to see how it works – incorporating fashion and
finance.

Thanks again for, you being here and listening to this episode and
listening to me, I really appreciate it because there’s so many things
to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that you chose to listen to this
podcast.

I would love for you to send me a message, you can choose how you
want to send your message by email or voicemail, and let me know
what you think or what you’d like to hear, I really appreciate it!

If you enjoyed listening to this podcast, I would love for you to share
any of the podcast episodes with other people that you know who you
think would be able to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out and
I want so much to enrich their lives, to help them to grow and learn and
have a much more fulfilling life as well as those of you that are listening.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #020 – Do Things Differently In Your Life

Do Things Differently In Your Life

The topic of doing things differently in your life is a really
interesting one and you’ll understand what I mean.

I’ve always been the kind of person that I’ve always tried to
do things a little differently in my life.  I think it started from
when I was a little girl because I can remember when I was
a kid having that thought and feeling of wanting to do things
how I wanted to do it and when I wanted to do it.  You might
want to call it rebellion kind of sounds like rebellion, I think I
did become rebellious when I was a pre-teen(I hope it didn’t
start when I was a kid in elementary, that wouldn’t be good!)    

(Sorry Mom!)

I have to apologize to my mom because I’m pretty sure I gave
my Mom and other family members a lot of stress at times or
shall I say quite often.  As I think about it now, I think I felt
and acted that way because of the amount of creative energy
that I had from a really young age.

As a kid I always went with that creative energy that was
moving and flowing, isn’t that what we’re supposed to do?
We’re supposed to go with that flow, that we’re feeling.

I have to thank to my Mom, because she was the one that
was always doing something creative with my siblings and I.
I am so grateful for that!  We were always doing crafts, I did
a lot of sewing, she did a lot of sewing and we were always
just creating – working with clay and things like that.

Why is it that, it always seems the case that we don’t
appreciate our mom’s until we get much, much older and
then we have to suffer in our own lives before we wake
up and appreciate our moms!

I’m glad at least I woke and started appreciating all the
things that she did for me.

What I’ve come to realize is that you have to find out who
you are, all the way down to the depths of your very soul.
When you do that it becomes very evident that we are all
different on every level.  And what I’ve seen from so many
people is that they sometimes don’t really know who they
are, or, are a little afraid of what they know about themselves
and that’s a natural feeling – so don’t feel bad is you find
out things about yourself that you don’t like or you’re a little
afraid of it.

I am here to tell you that being different and doing things
differently is one of the many great things that you can do
for yourself, and for those people who are closest to you
because they’re actually the one’s who reap the benefits
of who you are – whether it’s good or bad.

Now, I’m not talkin’ about being the weird kind of different
that people will be turned off by.  I’m just talking about being
you, which is different.  There is only one “you”, one of you
on this planet, there is no one else like you.

So, when you become comfortable with being different, then
doing things differently becomes a breeze!  You’ll start to notice
that things start to get better in you life.  Now I know that this
idea is not easy for a lot of people, but, I do know that it’ s well
worth it.

One thing that you can do today to start to do things differently
is:

~Decide that this is what you want to do and commit to knowing that
this is going to be a fantastic thing for you.

There are so many benefits of doing things differently.  I just want to
let you know that I love the fact that I do things differently than a lot
of other people that I know.  I’m not afraid of it.  If a thought or idea
that comes to me, then I go with the flow.  It has helped me in so
many ways that it’s impossible to really mention it all, right here.

I want to talk more about the benefits of doing things differently in
your life and maybe you can see what I mean.

One of the benefits is:

~You start to feel like you’re special, and this is great if you don’t
already feel like that.

Now, I’m not sure if you have even thought about feeling like you’re
special or that you even care to feel like that.  But, I will say that
when you start to care about how you feel about yourself, everyone
around you will start to notice and even make a comment or two.
I want to challenge you to start thinking about that.

Another benefit:

~Your sense of awareness becomes greater because you’re not
focusing on trying to be or become like someone else.

Greater awareness is always a good thing that’s for sure.  Who
wouldn’t want to notice things around us that can benefit us, or
those that we care about.  It’s when we are paying attention that
we can enjoy the benefits of that newfound sense of awareness.

 

So, basically it’s all about aware of you and your surroundings and
the benefits will definitely be different for everyone, so you won’t
really know until you try it out.

One more benefit:

~You’ll find that your level of confidence starts to grow.  You know
something very interesting that I’ve noticed for many years now, is
that as peoples’ confidence level starts to grow they start to realize
that they aren’t so: dumb, stupid, unworthy, ridiculous, foolish or …
(you fill in the blank).

You start to have a lot of small little accomplishments that lead you
straight to a higher level of confidence as you keep plugging away
and doing these things a little differently (like in your own special way).
If you keep at it everyday, you’ll start to notice your confidence starting
to grow and who wouldn’t want to be confident, right!

I know that all of these things do take time and it will take time.
This is not something that happens overnight (unfortunately, sometimes
I wish it did) but I want to encourage you to hang in there, keep going,
keep moving forward in the pursuit of ‘being who you really are” doing
things differently.

 

We’re all striving to be happy.  If you do things differently in your life
(and you could incorporate this into all areas of your life) it doesn’t
have to be only one specific thing or one specific way, just start off
by focusing on one area and think about how you can do something
different – even starting right now.

Write it down, I always talk about pencil and paper.  Write things down.
Just jot down an idea or two that you might have about what you could
do differently in your life, it really will have a big impact on your life but
you’ll never know until you get started.  You will definitely reap all of
the benefits that are waiting for you when you do things differently
and find out who you really are.

I want you to start today, I’m cheering for you! (Rah! Rah!)

I want to be in your corner and cheer you on and if you need my
help, I would love for you to connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com

If you would like me to help you and if you’d like to work with me
I would welcome your email, or if you want you can send me a
voice mail message just go to my website at FashionableFinance.com –
click on the voice mail tab on the right hand side an send me a voice
mail message and I will get back to you and see how we can work
together I would love for you to comment and let me know what
you think and what you want to hear and send me anything you’d
like me to know.

I would love for you to share this podcast with other people that you
know who you think would be able to benefit from the things that I’m
sharing.

All the things that I share is all the things that I’ve learned and gone
through in my life and learned by experience and so please share this
message with other people, you’ll be amazed at how it could really
help someone when you didn’t think it could.  So let them know
where they can listen to this recording, they can go to iTunes and
they can search for Fashionable Finance or they can go to my website
at fashionablefinance.com and it’s right there, you can listen to it or
you can actually read the show notes.

I would appreciate it if you would go to iTunes and give me an honest
rating and an honest review, I would really appreciate that and it lets
me know what you folks are liking and not liking and if you think it’s
of value.  I only want to share value, I don’t want to share anything
that’s not worth your time because it wouldn’t benefit me or you!

I would love to help you in your pursuit of Doing Things Differently I
n Your Life.

I thank you so much, I really appreciate you being here because
there’s so many things to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that
you chose this podcast.

I want to send out some wonderful Hawaiian sunshine to all of you.

Again, I would love for you to send me a message, you can choose
how you want to send your message by email or voicemail, and let
me know what you think I appreciate it!

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out
there and to enrich their lives, to help them to grow and learn and
have a much more fulfilling life.

I want to thank you, a hui hou malama pono – until next time,
take care!

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #019 – Not Looking Back

Not Looking Back

I am here in beautiful Hawaii and I want to send the Aloha
Spirit out to all of you that are listening, I hope you feel it
and I hope you feel my love.

And I want to send out some Hawaiian Sunshine as well,
it makes you feel good.

I want to share with all of you about Not Looking Back:

Unfortunately It’s something that we all do…a lot!  I, myself
have caught myself looking back at all the things that I’ve
done in my life that was either – wrong, crazy, hurtful and
way to much more that I don’t even really want to think
about.  A number of years ago I realized that I had a tendency
to always look back at the negative things instead of the
positive things that I did.  Why do we do that?  We tend to
always look back at the negative and not the positive.

We’re all growing and learning were here on earth to learn and
grow, we’re not perfect.  So, that’s why sometimes we do those
crazy things like looking back at the negative instead of trying
to find out what was really good to and think about all those
good things we did.

Now, looking back on the negative is only a good thing when
you going to try and learn from it, when you’re going to try and
make better choices and maybe change direction in your life
and really be on a good path and maybe even trying to change
your behavior or anything like that.

But, it’s really not a good idea to look back at the negative and
then torture yourself about the bad things that you’ve done, and
it’s just a natural human tendency that we have.  We’re not taught
as little kids to look back the things that didn’t go right or the
things that we’ve done wrong and try to learn from it.

I think they need to teach all these things in school,  even as
early as elementary.  What do you think?  Let me know.

What impact it’s having on our lives when we think about all
the negative things, or just the whole idea of looking back at
the negative is kind of scary.

So, what impact is it having on your life, let me ask you that.
So think back at the last time you looked back at your past
and depending on how old you are, you can have many, many
years on things that you’ve done that maybe you wish you
could change.

Of course we can’t wish and we can’t change the past, but
think about things that you’ve thought about recently that
you’ve done in the past and it was really negative, and then
it just got you down thinking about it because, that’s one of
the things that looking at your negative past does to you – if
you’re not using it to help correct your life now and you’re just
trying to beat yourself up about all the bad things that you’ve
done.   

When was the last time you thought about that and what did
it do to you?

Did it put you in a state of depression?

Did it just want to make you eat sugar?

Did it just want to make you scream?

Think back to when the last time it was, it could have been
today, it could have been last month, who know!  We have so
many thoughts that go through our head every day that it’s
just amazing.        

Each podcast I always say “write everything down, get it out
of your head”, by now I hope that you actually have written
things down.  Maybe you bought a notebook or created your
own.  Write it down, it has such an amazing effect when you
physically write it on paper verses on your computer or smart
phone.

I’ve talked about this many times in my different episodes.
But think about it, write it down – what was the last thing that
you thought about that was negative and when was it.  Think
about how you could actually turn that around and make it so
that it could actually help you in your life verses just using it
to torture yourself, because that really doesn’t help you or
anyone around you.

Because when you start to get depressed or frustrated, we
tend to take it out on the people that are the closest to us –
our family and even sometimes friends or if you work.  If you
have a job around a lot of other people and somebody’s irritating
you, you might just want to take out your irritation on them.

Think about that, what is that thing that you keep thinking about?
A lot of times it’s just a couple of things, sometimes we don’t
think about the many, many things we did, but somethings
there’s a couple things that we tend to torture ourselves with.

I know because I’ve actually done that, I’ve realized that it was
usually just a couple of things that I used to torture myself with –
thinking about how stupid it was, why did I do that it made no sense.

Who knows what else, I don’t even want to remember the
thoughts that I was thinking at the time.

What you have to remember is that we’re human and we have
to learn all these things, nobody teaches us these things when
we were little.

So, if you’ve never been taught how to do certain things, now’s
a good time to start taking notes.

I always encourage people to listen to these episodes more
than once because you can always learn something new when
you listen to each episode more then one time, because there’s
so much content involved and so many things that I’m talking
about.

So, start by writing things out and just go back in your mind.
If it’s to hard, then maybe you have to work yourself up to
thinking about it instead of just trying to go back there in your
mind.

Sometimes if you think about it, when you actually can get it
out of your head – get it out of your thoughts, it’s easier to let
it go.  We like to hold on to every good and bad.

It’s not really healthy for us to hold on everything that’s not
working for us.  It’s a good start, it’s a good practice to have –
to write everything out.

It starts the process of you recognizing it and then eventually
you’ll have the ability to let it go.  Well, you actually have to
want to let it go first before you can let it go.

I would say, after you get it out on paper think about why you
were even thinking about that because sometimes when you’re
doing something, there’s always a trigger somewhere.  When
you’re doing something or you’re in a location or you’re around
certain people, there’s those triggers that pop into your head
and reminds you of the past of those negative things that you’ve
done.  Sometimes it’s a place or a person that is the cause of
this, we have to take responsibility ourselves for inappropriate
actions.

Sometimes if there’s another person involved, it could be the
other person just making you crazy and who knows you could
have said something really horrible or if that person was irritating
you, you could have just snapped and said something that really
you shouldn’t have that really hurt that other person.

Who knows, there’s endless possibilities of things that could
have happened.  Catch yourself too, as you go about your daily
life, really catch yourself in everything that you do.  Think about
the things that you say and the places that you go, think about
what  you’re doing and if you’re starting to say something that
you know you’re going to regret!  Then try to catch yourself and
stop yourself from saying something that could be really harmful
to somebody else and the more you practice that, the easier it
becomes to start catching yourself.

Of course it is a little bit of work, but once you get that habit
going of – always thinking about what you’re going to say first.
It really will make a big difference.

I’m on of those, that I like to speak my mind so sometimes I
don’t think about what I’m saying, I just open my mouth and I
realize that I shouldn’t have said that.  Now I really try to work
on thinking about what I’m going to say first.  I’ve been to places
where I’ve said things and then I thought “oh” and if my husband
was with me, he would tell me later “why did you say that!”  I
would just be in a state of shock like “oh, yah I don’t know why
I said that” and of course he’s either embarrassed or he’s just
confused as to why I say the things I say.

Sometimes we do that to our spouses, (but not on purpose)
It’s a give and take right! 😉

I just want to encourage you to try and catch yourself whenever
you’re going throughout your day and sometimes it doesn’t
even involve anybody else when you do things that really are
negative and sometimes it’s just you.  It’s O.K., just know t
hat you’re human and you’re just like everybody else who’s
trying to work through this life and learn and grow to become
a better person.

If you can just start with these few things, it will really make you
feel good.  I didn’t realize how good it made me feel when I
realized a while back that I was doing this crazy thing on just
torturing myself about all the negative things that I’ve ever done
in the past and it really was eye-opening and now I’m so glad
that I recognized it and I’m trying to work on  not torturing myself.
I’ve come a long way, it’s taken  awhile.  I don’t want to feel yucky
like that anymore and sometimes there’s no better word to use
then yucky, because yucky is just kind of a mishmash of a whole
bunch of feelings.  You just get tired after a while of feeling yucky
and you just don’t want it anymore.  You got to figure out why
you’re feeling yucky and one of the things that makes you feel
like that is just looking back on all this negativity.

Try and make it an effort, you might even want to make it a
practice everyday to start looking at all the positive things that
you’ve ever done, the people’s lives that you’ve impacted the
things that you’ve accomplished or anything that’s good.

Start cheering for yourself, start celebrating the wonderful things
that you’ve done.  Celebrating yourself, it doesn’t have to be
this big celebration that’s not what I’m talking about, but of
course you can do that if you want.

Just celebrate with yourself or with a friend or your family or
anybody.  Go out and get a snack or go get a bite to eat and
just celebrate and talk about the positive and you’ll be really
amazed at what a difference it will make and how you’ll feel.

I really encourage you to take this step forward because this
kind of looking back stuff really prevents you from moving
forward in your life.  It’s really hard to overcome things and
accomplish great things and great things are different to
everybody, but it’s really difficult when you’re constantly
looking back at the negative.

Try and NOT look back and try to work towards focusing on
the positive.

I promise you, you’ll be really happy and might even feel some
excitement that “hey, I can do this”.

I want you to email me, connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com,
let me know how you’re doing and if you need help I’ll would be happy
to help you, you can email me for a free consultation, you can send
me a voicemail – just go to my website at fashionablefinance.com
and on the right hand side is the voicemail tab you can leave me
a voicemail message and let me know what you think.

Your feedback is wonderful too, I really appreciate you letting
me know what you like and what you don’t and the things that
you want to hear about.

Again I would ask you to please share this podcast with anybody
who you think would get great value out of it, maybe you know
somebody struggling with something that maybe listening to
any of these episodes will help them.  You can send them to
my website at fashionablefinance.com and it has all the episodes
there, they can listen or you can go to iTunes and just search
for Fashionable Finance and while you’re there in iTunes, I would
love for you to give me a rating and an honest review – please
be honest so that I know what’s working and what’s not and
what you like and what you don’t like.

It’s O.K. I can take the truth, I’m more mature now so I can
deal with it.

I thank you again for listening I really appreciate you being here
and I hope you have a fantastic day.

a hui hou malama pono – until next time, take care

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com
and www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #018 – Service – It Makes You Feel Good

Service-It Makes You Feel Good

I want to talk to you about service.
What comes to your mind when you hear that word?
I’m talking about the kind of service that you would render to someone.

Service brings all kinds of thoughts to our mind.  Sometimes people
haven’t had the best experience with service and some people haven’t
had any experience serving.

Everything that we do has some kind of impact on other people’s lives,
whether you’re working at your job, or in a community.

Let me ask you another question.  Have you ever been a recipient of
someone doing service for you or to you?

Serving someone if one of the greatest things you could ever do in your
life and I can say that because I have experienced it, I have talked to many,
many people who give service and have received service.  I have found
that serving other people is not something most people think about on a
daily basis.

Now, I’m not talking about the kind of service that you sacrifice your health,
family or anything like that.  That’s why the word service scares people
because that’s what they think will happen; if you serve in any capacity
you’re going to have to sacrifice those things.  But…I’m talking about
the kind of service that would help, uplift, make a difference in someone’s
life.  It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or extreme that’s not what
I’m talking about.

There’s not enough talk about being of service.  I know it’s because people
are so consumed with their own life that it’s hard to think about being of
service to others and that’s a natural feeling, that’s how things are now
and everyone is really busy.

Everywhere you go, you see people rushing around, rushing to and from
work, rushing to take their kids to school and then to their extra-curricular
activities and sports practices.  Rushing home to make dinner.  It’s really
hard sometimes to be of service when you’re doing all these things for
your family.

I get that because I’ve been there too.  My kids were young at one point
and I was driving them all over the place.  But there needs to be more
talk of service and there needs to be more “doing” of service as well,
you can’t just talk about it, you actually have to do it and experience it.
There’s something that you really get when you serve somebody and
it’s not even something that somebody can explain to you how that
feeling is when you give service.

I want to give you one small example of service from my Grandmother,
this is what I witnessed growing up that she did.  She was the greatest
example of someone giving unconditional service and unconditional
love, and kindness and caring.

When I was little, my Grandmother used to take one of her cousin to
work and he worked at the University Of Hawaii, and I live here in Hawaii.
She lived only about 10 to 15 minutes away from the University and he
worked there in the maintenance department and he wasn’t able to drive.
He lived with his siblings and parents, which was only a few minutes away
from my Grandmother, so she would go every night – because he worked
in the evenings and pick him up, take him to the University so that he could
go to work and then she would go and pick him up from work and take him
home.

I was blessed and lucky enough that I used to go with her a lot when she
used to pick him up and drop him off to work, I was a really little girl – I don’t
even remember how old I was when I used to go with her.  I know I was
in early elementary and maybe even younger, so you’re talking a long time
ago(that’s beside the point!).  I always remember sitting beside her in the
car and it was always fun to be with my Grandmother anyway and I still
think about that till this day.

I don’t remember how many years she did that. She is no longer here
and she passed away about 11 years ago.  She was my greatest example
of just doing things that would help somebody, something so small and in
her eyes it was no big deal, but I’ve witnessed what a great impact it had
on her cousin and his family because his family members didn’t drive either.

I’m just in awe of someone giving up that much time, now I don’t know how
many days of the week she did that or any of that, I didn’t keep track and
I know that she did that for many, many years.

But I still think to myself about how amazing that was, where she never
complained, she just did it because she knew he couldn’t drive and I knew
there were times when he caught the bus as well.   There were many, many
times and years that she picked him up.

The kind of service that I’m talking about can be something like that if you
do have the time and you do have the resources to go and do that.  But
service doesn’t have to be that big, it doesn’t have to be where you pick
somebody up all the time and take them somewhere, it could be taking a
meal to the if you know they’re sick or not feeling good or if somebody
just had a baby you could go and take a meal and just be of service – it’s
amazing, the feeling that you’ll get.

Because I’ve had this great example all my life from my Grandmother, I’ve
done those things myself just naturally without even thinking about it, and
I’m so grateful that I had that example because I don’t think I would be doing
or have done any of the things I’ve done to give of myself and to give service
to people that need it.  Sometime we think that we don’t have time and it’s
such a hassle, but if you actually make your first attempt if you’ve never,
ever given service to anyone, I would definitely encourage you to try it at least
one time.

If you know somebody that needs a meal, if they’re having a rough time
going through some kind of really stressful event that happened in their
life or a death in the family – go and take them a meal, just drop it off and
let them know that you’re thinking about them.

It’s just so amazing and like I said earlier, I was a recipient of people doing
service for me as well, like when I’ve had my children I had many wonderful
friends bring meals for me and my family when I got out of the hospital and
just little things like that and another friend who offered to take my other
children to school because I had just gotten home from the hospital after
having another baby.

It really makes you feel like everything is going to be O.K. because sometimes
you go through life and you just wonder… are you doing to make it?  You
have times where you feel like… I just feel like doing this anymore!  Or you’re
frustrated and you have no idea how you’re going to get over that frustration.
Life is hard sometime, sometimes it can be harder than others and so you’ll
never know what kind of difference you’ll make in somebody’s life.

I’ve actually had people tell me so many times – “thank you so much what
you did it really made my day, I just was having a hard day.”  I’ve done so
many things over the years and people have thanked me before and I didn’t
really keep track of those thank you’s because it just makes me feel good,
so it’s not something that I needed to write down.

But those things and those feelings and gratitude from other people never
leave you, it just makes you feel really good and it makes you actually want
to give more service as often as possible.  This is something that I think we
need more of and I think it’s something that we need to do more often and
the reason that I say that is that we’re so caught up in our own lives, and it’s
really difficult to think about other people when we’re stressed out and some-
times we think that if we have an idea of doing something nice for somebody,
sometimes you’ll have a thought “oh, they don’t need it they’re fine”, “they’re
tough” or “they’re a really strong family” or “that person’s really strong they’ll
survive”.

We have thoughts in our head that we think that when we have that little
thought come into our mind about “oh, maybe I should ask them to see if
they need anything”.

Sometime the automatic response and thought that you would have is “oh,
they probably wouldn’t want anything from me anyway”, you might even
have thoughts of like “well, why would they even want anything from me?”
We always think that so many other people are better than we are and
they don’t need anything from us or they have more money than we do so
they can buy whatever they need, but that’s not always the case. Even
people that do have more money than you, still need service and love
and compassion from others because money doesn’t buy happiness –
money just gives you more options.  Money gives you more opportunities
and things like that, but the true source of happiness really comes from
service and giving and sometimes I think we need to give more than we
take.

I’m talking from experience, I’ve had moments years and years ago where
I don’t think I was serving very much – I was trying to take as much as possible
from others, not in a bad way but because I had things going on or life was
stressful at the time.  So now I feel like I want to make up for all of that taking
that I did, but sometimes we do need to take but we need to view it as receiving
verses taking because when you receive, it’s a very different emotion and thought
and a way of living versus just taking.  Taking, is all about just what’s in it for you,
but receiving is allowing the other person to feel good as well as – me feeling good
for the gift that somebody else is giving me and in the gift of service.

So, think about that for awhile.  I really hope that you have a desire to serve, and
like I said if you’ve never served or done anything like that – I really encourage you
to try it at least once.

I would really love for you to tell me what kind of service you’ve done and any of
you that are listening, I would love for you to share with me some of the things
that you’ve done as a service or some of the things that you’ve received when
someone has given service to you.  It doesn’t have to be anything major, some-
times we think our stories are not significant, but you’ll be amazed at how significant
they really are.

I would love for you to connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com and
even if you have a comment too, I would love your comments and if you have
anything else that you would like me to talk about and create another episode,
I would love for you to share that with me.

Please share this podcast too with other people that you know who you think
would be able to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.  All the things that
I share is always the things that I’ve learned and gone through in my life and
learned by experience and so please share this message with other people,
you’ll be amazed at how it could really help someone when you didn’t think
it could.  So let them know where they can listen to this recording, they can
go to iTunes and they can search for Fashionable Finance or they can go to
my website at fashionablefinance.com and it’s right there on my website, you
can listen to it as well over there.

I would appreciate it if you would go to iTunes and give me an honest rating
and an honest review, I would really appreciate that and it lets me know what
you folks are liking and not liking and what you think is of value.  I only want
to share value, I don’t want to share anything that’s not worth your time.

I want to sum it up by saying that service is one of the greatest things that
you could ever do in your life and I know that for sure because I’ve witnessed
it and I’ve done it myself and I’ve been the recipient of service as well.   I know
the countless number of other people who have been the recipient as well
and they’ve shared with me the blessings and relief that it’s brought to them.

Get creative and think about what is one neat thing that you could do for some-
body and it doesn’t have to be a meal, it doesn’t have to be anything extravagant –
you can even pick up the phone if haven’t talked to somebody in a really long time,
let them know that you were thinking about them and how they’re doing and just
wanting to know if everything is O.K. It could be something as simple as writing a
card to let them know that you’re thinking about them if you don’t want to call.

There’s so many ways that you could give of service and even though writing a
card and calling somebody on the phone may not seem like a service but… it is!
Trust me, I’ve heard from many people who have felt like it was such a great service
to them.

Brainstorm on paper, remember I always say “write everything down, get everything
out of your head and on to paper”  Just jot down a few ideas that you might have
on what kind of service that you could offer to someone.  It will make you feel good
and it will help you sleep really good at night.

I thank you so much, I really appreciate you being here and listening to this episode
and listening to me, I want to send out some wonderful Hawaiian sunshine to all of
you listening out there and I appreciate any new listeners that we have.  Again, I
would love for you to send me a message, you can even go to my website and
leave me a voicemail, you just click on the voicemail tab on the right-hand side
and let me know what you think!

I want to thank you.

a hui hou malama pono – until next time, take care

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #017 – Are You A Woman With A Plan?

Are You A Woman With A Plan-

Women usually have a plan for something that they
really want and sometimes they don’t even realize
that they’ve made a plan because it’s been something
that they do naturally and have been doing it for so long,
that they don’t feel the need to have it written out.

Sometimes I think that as little girls we have this natural
ability to see what we want, figure out a way to get it
(a plan) and then go for it – no matter what.

Have you ever watched a little girl playing house, having
a tea party or doll dress up? If you have, you probably
have witnessed that little girl in action: setting things up,
organizing everything and telling her playmates what to do
and, what not to do (some might call it being bossy). I think
it’s pretty funny, her playmates are at her mercy.

Isn’t that how it is as grown women, we continue that same
pattern just like when we were little. The only difference is
is that we have a lot more people that are in our life to
organize (boss around).

Even though that might come easy and written plans are
not required, sometimes having a plan for something
specific and more elaborate requires that it be written
out on paper in order for it to be accomplished.

For example, these are some things that require you to have
a written plan:

*Managing your finances
*Going to college – how much is it going to cost
*Where you’re going to live – how much can you afford to
pay per month for rent or mortgage
*Getting married
*Buying a car through financing
*Travel – taking a trip to Italy
*Growing your spirituality
*Taking care of your health (yes, you need a plan for that!)

The list can be endless, everyone is so different in what they
want and how they want to live their life.

I want to say to all of you women out there, start making plans
for your life that will get you excited. Be a woman with a plan!
There’s something amazing that happens when you actually
write out or draw out what you want on paper. It’s so different
then keeping it all in your head or doing it digitally.

I’ve witnessed some amazing things as I’ve taught students
how to get their ideas out of their head, how to use their imagination
and creativity in all different ways, and all of it was done with
physical objects, not a computer.

My former students have experienced a great deal of satisfaction,
amazement within themselves, a sense of accomplishment and
the confidence that they can do things that may seem hard.

I have a fun suggestion – get some colored pens, pencils,
paints of some kind, crayons, oil pastels or anything else that is
colorful of your choice and just start writing or drawing a plan for
what you want. You can choose whatever kind of paper you want.
This is your plan and you can create it any way you want!

Colors have a way of activating the imagination and creativity.
Who says that a plan has to be on a plain sheet of paper, written
with a black ink pen?

You’re more likely to have success with your plan when it’s on paper
verses it being stuck in your head.
Plan! (with colors) You will be happy that you did.

If you need help with planning or creating a plan for something you
have in your heart, let me know. I will be more than happy to help
you.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the voicemail tab on the right side of the screen.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #016 – 10 Questions You Need To Include In The Conversation You Have With Yourself Everyday

10 Questions

In this episode I share with you the10 questions
you need to include in the conversation you
have with yourself everyday.

The person we have a conversation with the
most every single day is ourselves.  You may
not have even realized it until now, but if you
just take a moment to think about all the things
that you think about every day of your life, you’ll
come to realize that most of it was talking to
yourself , also know as: conversations with
yourself.

It’s pretty amazing when you think about it, that we have these conversations
all day long and I wonder how in the world can we do that when we have so
many things going on.

These conversations actually do one of two things: they either help us or
hurt us.  And this is what I mean, it so easy for us to say negative things
to ourselves when we feel like we’re not smart enough or when we compare
ourselves to other people and much more.  By doing that and saying these
negative things to ourselves, it really has such a hurtful effect on your mind,
body and spirit.

Now when on an occasion or two we say good things to ourselves, then
it helps our happy hormones to feel good and leads us to feel happiness
and joy.  That also makes our mind, body and spirt happy too, and we
want to feel happiness and joy right?

I would love for you to start having great conversations with yourself as
soon as possible.  You’re definitely worth it and I hope that you know
know that you’re worth it.

I have a list of 10 questions that I put together for you to use everyday.
Start each day by reviewing all of these questions so that it can eventually
become cemented in your mind, which will lead to you automatically asking
yourself these questions on a daily basis.  It’s a pretty neat things to have
that happen.

Many years ago I started to ask my self these questions and many more
all the time.  It’s amazing what you start to realize when you do this everyday.

These are the questions:

1.  How can I make it important to consider and honor my own needs?

~You need to honor and take care of yourself first in order for you
to take care of other people.

2.  What is it going to take for me to start speaking the truth to myself,
     because truth is powerful?

~Have you ever heard the saying that truth hurts?  Well, it only hurts
when you are in denial about something.  Once you are ready to
face the truth, the truth will set you free.  I’m sure you’ve heard that
too.  It’s really not that scary like you might think.

3.  How am I going to know of my self-worth which is priceless?

~Knowing your worth is the key to everything which makes it
priceless.  Many of your struggles would disappear if you knew
your worth deep down in your heart.  The worth of your soul
is great in the sight of God.

4.  How can I let go of any fear that I have?

~Holding on to fear can be so devastating in so many ways. If you
haven’t already listened to episode #011 on Fear, then I invite you
to go and listen to it after.  Letting go of fear is so liberating.

5.  Do I have things that I doubt?  And if I do how do I let it go of that doubt?

~Doubt your doubt before you just accept it.  Episode #012 of this
podcast is about Doubt, so go and listen to that episode if you
haven’t had the opportunity yet and it will help you understand
a little bit more about this crazy thing called doubt.

6.  How do I let go of any shame that I feel?

~So many times shame just gets in the way of moving forward and
asking questions.  Again, in this podcast I created episode #013
that talks about Shame.  Please go and listen to it to get a better
understanding of shame.

7.  What value do I bring to my life and to those that are in my life?

~Have you ever thought about the value that you bring to yourself
and anyone else that you come in contact with, including your
family, friends, co-workers, etc?  Everyone has value that is
important to relationships, starting with the relationship with
yourself and then with everyone else.  The gifts, talents and
knowledge that you possess are of great value and need to
be held as such.  All of those things helps to create meaning
in your life and in the lives of those you care about.

8.  What is it going to take for me to feel joy everyday?

~Where here on earth to have joy as well as other things and
sometimes it’s hard to feel joy when life is moving so quickly.
So ask yourself if you’re feeling joy and if not, why not.

9.  Do I know that creativity is something that is already inside of me,
not outside of me?

~Everyone on this planet has the gift of creativity within them.  It is
not something that you acquire, it is a God given gift and it has a
purpose.  Everything you do is a creation.  Think about that everyday.

10. What do I need to do to be the creator of my success?

~It has to start with you and the decision that you make about creating
your success.  You have to want it and then take the steps needed in
order for success to happen.  Now, you don’t have to ask yourself
these questions in the order that I have them listed because it’s not
the order in which you ask these questions, but it’s the nature of the
questions themselves.
These are really powerful questions and to be asking yourself about
these things will have such a powerful effect on you and your life.
I can promise you that.

I have done it myself for years and I can tell you that it has had such a great
and powerful impact on me and how I live my life.  I know that I have become
a much better person in how I do things, the way I live my life and much more.
I’m not saying that I have it all figured out or I’m perfect because I don’t have
it all figured out and I know I’m far from perfect. I just feel better mentally,
emotionally and spiritually and I would love for you to feel all of that too.

Like I always say, write things down, get it out of your head and on to paper.
Writing things down has power.  It’s amazing what happens when you actually
read your own writing.  As much as possible I recommend writing thing down
on paper with a writing instrument of some kind instead of typing it out on your
phone or computer.

I invite you to try this out for 7 days and see how you feel after just a week of
asking yourself these powerful questions.  You will be glad you did.

Please send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com and let me know if
you’ve tried this exercise and how it worked for you.  I would really love to hear
from you.  I welcome any questions that you might have as well.

You can also go to www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the tab on the right side of the screen.

You can connect with me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

If you’re not already subscribed to this podcast then please subscribe in
iTunes, so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast  a rating and review
in iTunes.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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episode #015 – Sometimes The Only Thing We Can Do Is To Make It Through The Day

Have you ever had a time in your life where things were so
stressful and there was a lot going on?  Are you going through
it now?

Because life throws curve balls at you and you may not be
prepared or feel like you’re ready to take on those curve
balls, that you just feel like screaming or maybe even crying!

Curve balls a.k.a.: a flat tire or a car accident on the freeway
and now you’re going to be 30 minutes late to work or an
appointment, or as soon as you get to work you get a phone
call from your child’s school that he or she is feeling sick and
you need to pick him or her up as soon as possible, or you

get home from work and somebody in your family reminds you
that you signed up to bring snacks to a school or committee
meeting that night, or how about all of these things happening
in one day!

At this point you’re thinking no way…this cannot be happening!
And you start to wonder if you can make it through the rest of
the day.

This is just an example of a few of the many endless things
that has happened to me and many other people that I know.

I’m sure you can relate as you are reading this.

With life being so busy and moving fast, sometimes the only
thing you can do it make it through the day and not worry about
tomorrow or the future.

I want to let you know that you’re not alone, life likes to keep you
on your toes which at times can seem relentless.  It seems like the
light at the end of the tunnel is not even in your view or you don’t
even have the energy to dream of the light.

When these things are happening, have you ever had the thought
of “I just want to get on an airplane and fly off somewhere where
nobody can find me”.  Well, I have had that thought many, many
times.  Although it’s never happened…I’ve never gotten on an
airplane and flew off to somewhere far away when life was throwing
me curve balls.

It’s a great thought though, don’t you think?

Sometimes the frustration level is so high that you just feel like
you just can’t deal with all the stress that’s happening in one day.

Well, looking back at those times of dealing with the curve balls
I realize that on quite a few occasions, that it was because of my
lack of planning and preparation.  Of course I’m talking about things
that I had control over, like having the snack ready ahead of time
and things like that.  Obviously I have no control over a flat tire,
a car accident on the freeway or my child getting sick at school.
But I do have control over other little things that I can put in place
and prepare for.

Hind sight is always great, because it means that you are willing
to see and learn from all the things that didn’t work in the past.
It’s also really important to realize that you can’t change the past.
It’s really easy to blame everyone and everything else instead of
just accepting what happened and realize that sometimes there’s
nothing that you can do or could have done in certain situations.

Women in general are so hard on themselves when things happen
and go in a direction that created pain or stress, that they start
saying things to themselves that are very emotionally, mentally and
spiritually harmful.

There is nothing that is worth that kind of pain to your emotions,
your 
mind or your spirit.

It really is OK to want to just make it through the day and nothing
more.  Just remember to breathe…

If and when you have curve balls coming at you, just remember that
you are only going to be better for having gone through it.

Here’s 4 things I suggest that you do:

1.  Set a specific day and time each week to go over your life and
what is going on during the coming week.

2.  Jot down on a paper calendar or your digital calendar, as many
notes as possible about what’s happening on each day and what
you need to do for each thing.

3.  Let everyone know that is involved in your activities.

4.  Look at your calendar multiple times a day.  You’ll be amazed at
how easily it is to forget what you put in the calendar.

It may sound a little too simple, but it really is powerful in helping
you deal with any curve balls.

Just trying to make it through the day is better than just giving up and
throwing in the towel and not dealing with the curve balls in a positive
way.

I would love to hear from you, tell me what kinds of curve balls you’ve
had in your life and how you dealt with it and let me know what you think,
send me an email at janin@fashionablefinance.com.  I would love to
hear from you.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means – until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

Make sure you visit www.fashionablefinance.com and leave me a voice
message through the Speakpipe app.

You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.com and
www.twitter.com/janinjohnston

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,
so that you’ll never miss an episode.

I would really appreciate it if you would give this podcast –
The Fashionable Finance Podcast a rating and review in
iTunes.

Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin Johnston

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
If you would like to order a copy of this CD you
can send an email request to Pilialoha Productions
at: makai@maui.net

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Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.

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